Hello Kevin and welcome to the forum.
I have to take issue with the tone of your post - especially the assumption that
to those commenting here who very clearly are lucky enough to work, have their own lives, be financially comfortable, not have to see the things I see every day
Very few of those caring on this forum fit that criteria - the majority of those caring here care 24/7 for 365 days a year - many are not in a position to work at all and have to rely on a combination of benefits to get by; many are elderly and have given up their entire lives to caring for a disabled spouse or child. Most can only claim the basic Carers Allowance of £67.60 per week (so a fair bit less than your £500 per month), so yes, perhaps some would be willing to change places with you.
In all my years (14 !) contributing to this forum, firstly as a member and now as a moderator, I have never seen anyone say
“it’s what families do, this country is too soft, my tax money”,
Yes, it is very hard caring for someone with dementia - I did it for a number of years and wouldn't wish the situation on anyone - but telling the members of this forum
kevin_210812 wrote:very kindly do one
is not the way to go about getting support or advice.
I should just do it for free right? That’s what families do?
No, nobody can be forced to care for another person - be they family or friend but, of course it is what we do do until the time comes when we know that we can't do it any longer and have to consider other options like care assistants coming into the home to help or, as a last resort, consider a residential/nursing care home (As Bowlingbun has said the time comes when one person just cannot do it all and a team is needed).
I would kindly suggest that you read our Community Guideline
here https://www.carersuk.org/forum/support- ... ines-21290