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Tea, Tips and Tricks - Page 3 - Carers UK Forum

Tea, Tips and Tricks

Share your ideas about the practical side of caring.
FUTURE PROOFING - GET THE PAPERWORK OUT OF THE WAY

COURAGEOUS CONVERSATIONS
THE ELDERLY ALSO DEGENERATIVE CONDITIONS, PROGRESSIVE DISEASES

It isn't easy but if you can, have conversations about doing paperwork so that it is done and it isn't upsetting to do when it is nearer the time or too late.

DNAR - did you know that paramedics and doctors can decide not to resus if the patient is too frail? Also DNAR is more or less enforced on them in hospital even if they already have one at home.

Would you rather watch your caree have a painful death of the paramedic trying to resus or hold your loved one and comfort them?

Will - is it up to date, have you done one, would you like to make one/see a solicitor

Funeral - if the money is available to pay via a large company, do it. Then you know that no matter what they have it sorted and paid for and their service sorted out. If the money isn't available a payment plan could be done if affordable if not there is Gvt help and if that is needed you can still have conversations about their service.

POA - POWER OF ATTORNEY - DO BOTH NOW! Because it takes up to 6 months to process.
POA - Health and welfare
POA - Financial

POA - the power to act in their best interests when they do not have the capacity to BUT for the finance POA you can act on their behalf if they are unable to get to the bank/shops etc, are blind etc.

POA is void at point of death.

If there is no POA in place, the authorities act in their best interests for them, you will be lucky to have any say - spouse, parent, child - next of kin has no sway.

The caree must have the capacity to understand POA and a witness must act on their behalf to ensure they do and sign the POA to attest to that.
If the caree is blind you will need to check the legalities of the signing of POAs.

Law firms offer to do POA but you can do it online through the Gvt website.
There is a sliding scale of fees according to their income.

The form asks if you want to inform anyone - it isn't necessary and makes it take longer to process.
You will need to get the POA registered(?), follow the instructions.
We have two copies of each, kindly done by the solicitor when the will was updated.

Those forms are peace of mind for both of us, they are meaningless as she has all her faculties but if she loses them we have that reassurance that I will be able to act on her behalf in her best interests.

Acting jointly or separately?
Separately on everything other than big money things like selling the house is a better way in case just one person is there or if there are more than two then in case one is missing. Research and if need be get legal advice before choosing .

END OF LIFE CARE DECISIONS
These come in various ways depending on condition and will be done nearer the time as some form of advance care or end of life care. Do they want to be at home or hospital, or if qualifying in a hospice.
This is one you don't have control of preparing in advance yourself medical professionals will consult on this, however conversations between you can be had about preferences prior to that if they are wanting to talk about it.

EMERGENCY DOCUMENT
Listing medical conditions, allergies and medications and dosages - I've done it in alphabetical order
Date any changes to it or date the new version if printing it off
One copy in handbag and one with the medications or in the white and green tub in the fridge.

Some will never be able to do this due to the caree refusal, others may have to tread slowly and /or get there carefully and slowly or might just sail through it.

Getting the paperwork done can be emotional and unsettling for the caree.
When it is done, after a short time lapse, it is liberating, everything is taken care of, reassure the caree that all their wishes and affairs are taken care of, they can relax and not fret about it.

Not everyone is so lucky to be able to do this but if you have a chance of doing any of these, get them done, it will be another weight off your shoulders.
SMILE :D

If you see your loved one without a smile, give them one of yours and light up their face.

Of course this depends on circumstance and appropriateness.

We take the upbeat approach and we choose happiness.
We are very fortunate to have that outlook.

A smile gives off feelgood endorphins

It is also a temperature check,
if a smile cannot be raised, things are below par
when unwell if a smile is given, she's comfortable and comforted if nothing else

I understand it isn't so for everyone and there are times it isn't for us.
REPRESENTING YOUR CAREE

With the Doctor
Utility companies
Bank
POA - Power of attorney

Doctor
If the caree wants you to deal with the GP and surgery, a letter written by or for the caree giving the GP surgery permission for you to act on their behalf and discuss their health with them for them.

Utility Companies
Phone, water, gas, electricity supplier and National Grid electricity provider
Look up on the bills or on their websites and go through the procedure with each company for your caree to give you permission to act for them.

Utilities Priority customer
all of these companies should have a procedure and policy for registered vulnerable customers for when they are unable to supply their services. You can register them on their website or phone them if you do not have a computer.
So, for instance, if there is no water, they will bring water to the house.

Bank, insurance, private pension - any financial affairs
These will be more security conscious and have their own way of doing things, speaking to your caree on the phone, maybe requiring the POA and your ID etc. Ask them.

POA - Power of Attorney
POA - the power to act in their best interests when they do not have the capacity to BUT for the finance POA you can act on their behalf if they are unable to get to the bank/shops etc, are blind etc.

POA is void at point of death.

POA - POWER OF ATTORNEY - DO BOTH NOW! Because it takes up to 6 months to process.
POA - Health and welfare - medical professionals, care homes, social services
POA - Financial - bank, bills etc

The caree must have the capacity to understand POA and a witness must act on their behalf to ensure they do and sign the POA to attest to that.
If the caree is blind you will need to check the legalities of the signing of POAs.

Law firms offer to do POA but you can do it online through the Gvt website.
There is a sliding scale of fees according to their income.

The form asks if you want to inform anyone - it isn't necessary and makes it take longer to process.
You will need to get the POA registered(?), follow the instructions.
We have two copies of each, kindly done by the solicitor when the will was updated.

Those forms are peace of mind for both of us, they are meaningless as she has all her faculties but if she loses them we have that reassurance that I will be able to act on her behalf in her best interests.

Acting jointly or separately?
Separately on everything other than big money things like selling the house is a better way in case just one person is there or if there are more than two then in case one is missing. Research and if need be get legal advice before choosing .
NO WATER OR ELECTRICITY - UTILITIES FAILURES

ELECTRICITY, NATIONAL GRID, GAS, WATER, TELEPHONE

Utilities Priority customer

All of these companies should have a procedure and policy for their registered vulnerable customers for when they are unable to supply their services. You can register them on their website or phone them if you do not have a computer.

So, for instance, if there is no water or a standpipe, they will bring water to the house.
If you can, do pack a small lunch the night before. I like to munch on granola bars, sticks of veg or small cheap pots of fruit yoghurt. I’ve even been known to take in leftover sausage rolls, chutney and a soft drink. You can even eat sandwiches, crisps, and the like. I teach gardening skills and at lunchtime I typically buy my lunch from the onsite cafe as the variety of offered food is good but costly.
You can stuff a few mini sausage rolls into a Tupperware container, take in a few sandwiches in a bag or have some pieces of leftover chopped up fruit on the go. Try it. Spice up your lunch no end. You can also buy a couple of cheap but healthy muffins in order to munch on during your lunchtime.
Or you can even learn to make your own ones as a money saving exercise perhaps. There are literally tons of healthy free recipes that are located solely on the Internet, try looking at popular sites like www.bbcgoodfood.com for a nice start. Bagels make nice lunches. Or wraps. You can certainly find several free cookbooks at many libraries these days. Either begin there, take a quick fire look at the other cheapish ones online or buy them at a local bookshop. Use a plastic folder and then print off two additional copies of the recipes.