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Carers UK Forum • Simple things that help you cope
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Simple things that help you cope

Posted: Wed Jul 24, 2013 4:17 pm
by Mandie
Hi,
Well, I have had a good old whinge about all the negative things going on in my life! Yet I am a practical and capable person, I am organised and efficient - I would never get through my life otherwise! My lists are legendary and I put all my chores on a rota. This way they get prioritised better and I save precious energy.

I just thought here we could think about some of the most simple things that help us get through our days and make life worth living. I hope that is ok - I know how hard it is to find time to do anything for yourself. I shall start:

1. walking and talking with my two beautiful staffies - also the chats I have with other dog owners. Whatever else is going on I walk my dogs every day and give them playtime in the garden. Watching them is a great pleasure as they run free.
2. Reading on my Kindle - I love reading a wide variety. Even if it is only for half an hour just before I sleep
3. Being in my garden just weeding or sitting listening to the birds in the sun, when I get time
4. Wine! I do enjoy a couple of glasses in the evening.
5. Cleaning - I find great therapy in cleaning, I think because it gives me a feeling of regaining control somehow over my environment.
6. Corrie - I do love my soaps, they take my mind away from all else.
7. Shopping and browsing - especially charity shops for bits and pieces I fancy. I find time occasionally to do this and come back the better for it.
8. Getting up early - about 6am, it gives me a feeling of control over my day. I am always down completely ready by 8am at the latest for my dogs routines to begin.

Re: Simple things that help you cope

Posted: Wed Jul 24, 2013 5:32 pm
by bowlingbun
I'm a great believer in using the pent up energy in anger to do something productive, gardening, pruning, cleaning.
I like having a head and shoulder massage if I'm tense or anxious.
If I've had a really busy day, I love to relax in a warm bath.
Most of all, I love sewing. Ideally dressmaking, but curtain making, mending, even sewing buttons on is all very therapeutic for me.
I also like cooking "comfort food". Yesterday was the day from hell, so I made a lasagne. Today, I made some rock buns cooking in the oven. It's a caree free day.

Re: Simple things that help you cope

Posted: Thu Jul 25, 2013 3:35 pm
by mand65
Hi. we have a few things in common..... the name Image , plus I have two lovely staffies, and a kindle it goes everywhere, especially bus rides, lulu my lady staff has drove me nuts this week usually im up between 5.30-6am for work this week annual leave and im getting a nudge at 6am,told her I want a lie in but no im getting up, the poor thing was sat on my head during the thunderstorm, hates noise and is a quivering wreck. Back to normal next week but lulu will have the last laugh as my youngest is on school hols, when I go to work she wakes my daughters up Image Image Image , the dogs are my babies and hubbie knows where he stands......right at the bottom of the feeding chain Image

Re: Simple things that help you cope

Posted: Fri Jul 26, 2013 3:06 pm
by Mandie
Hi,
that is so nice to hear from both of you. We have to do things to make ourselves happy. We only have one life and must nurture ourselves as well as take care of others.

Re: Simple things that help you cope

Posted: Sun Jul 28, 2013 11:58 am
by ellcee
Cardmaking has kept me sane over the years.

Re: Simple things that help you cope

Posted: Thu Aug 08, 2013 12:56 pm
by kaz2013
Wish I had read this earlier in the week

Simple things like lunch out by myself somewhere I can also sit & watch the world go by

sunset -live in East Anglia so BIG skies glorious colours

30 minutes brisk walk with the MP3 is use to keep a steady pace

My Kindle -30 minutes escapism

When your up against it as a carer small things that make us happier count
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Re: Simple things that help you cope

Posted: Fri Aug 09, 2013 11:45 am
by hoiqd
Yes, after twenty years pretty full-on caring I've finally realised that any pleasures will
be small and simple. It's not a temporary thing. The newsie stopped delivering a daily paper, so I only see one maybe twice a week - that is the start of liberation!
My only real breaks are the twelve hours the ball and chain is in Daycare every week and when she goes into respite every two months (with luck).
So no kindle but real books, and mooching round second-hand book-shops buying books I'll never read. And abebooks.co.uk when she's away so they arrive when she can't see how much they cost!
No MP3 player, but Spotify.
No pets - it's hard enough looking after herself.
Catching up with interesting TV on 4OD, Beeb iplayer, etc. (She spends about twelve hours a day in bed, so we miss adult TV.)
Driving very fast with the Grateful Dead on the stereo. (But not, natch,when she's with me - sometimes I'll drop her at Daycare and just blaze up the nearest motorway and waste an hour that way.)
How selfish it all seems, but there we are..............

Re: Simple things that help you cope

Posted: Fri Aug 09, 2013 3:10 pm
by bowlingbun
I love driving too, NOT with the Grateful Dead though, give me Enya or similar, and I'm so chilled out after a few miles. Gloria Estefan if I'm tired! Me and my car and the open road.

Re: Simple things that help you cope

Posted: Fri Aug 09, 2013 4:34 pm
by Lapwing
I like to sit at the back or top of a double decker bus and read my book, kindle or real book, as long as the bus isn't crowded, hot or noisy. It feels like an escape, and I am anonymous for a half hour or so. If there is cricket on the radio, like there is today, I love to listen to that and listen to the commentators talk about all sorts of things, very soothing. Charity shops, second hand bookshops, all welcome escapes and distractions.

Re: Simple things that help you cope

Posted: Wed Aug 14, 2013 12:43 pm
by Treez
I forgot, until a few weeks ago, just how much I'd missed my garden - I used to moan about the size of it, and how it was only 'me' that tended it. Now I'm back home I'm loving weeding, clearing, sweeping, pruning and just getting 'lost' in it. It's magical.

I also like 'Corrie', a bit of escapism, cos life isn't totally like that is it? For a start I don't know anyone, when riled beyond belief, uses the term 'flippin' as much as in that soap. I'm from the north originally, and I've heard a lot worse!!

I like cleaning too Mandie, how sad are we?, but I know what you mean, you feel a bit more in control of your life Image . I also like making lists Image I started to go to our local charity shops a couple of years ago, and I found the fact that I got a lot of 'new clothes', for next to nothing a huge boost, I have to bring my daughter round to that way of thinking, needs must Image

Kaz, I like having a coffee and a sandwich out, and I sit there with my 'poetry', and watch the world go by, without having to make conversation...sometimes an effort, ah bliss.

I wish I could sew Bowlingbun, but I do love baking and making comfort food too, In fact Crocus has inspired me to take up evening classes in sugar paste decorating, just for fun, not professionally.

I feel better now. Thanks for that. Off to bake a strawberry cake xxx