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Noisy Neighbours - Page 2 - Carers UK Forum

Noisy Neighbours

Share your ideas about the practical side of caring.
AYJAY,

Thanks for that. They've already said the non stop door slamming is not classed as noise nuisance, it's just normal household noise so they won't.

BB,

I've told Mum about the Police but she said they will only make it worse. There's 2 from next door who have had prison sentences so she doesn't want to get stung with that.

***

Been looking for bungalows in the area, there are none. Mum's said she isn't moving unless it's to a bungalow and then she just point blank ignores me for a day or two if I bring up moving again. :dry: :dry: :dry:
There's a very simple solution to doors slamming, having them fitted with door closers. If it's council owned property, maybe ask them to consider this, even if you have to contribute?
ontheverge wrote:
Fri Feb 14, 2020 4:36 pm
AYJAY,

Thanks for that. They've already said the non stop door slamming is not classed as noise nuisance, it's just normal household noise so they won't.

BB,

I've told Mum about the Police but she said they will only make it worse. There's 2 from next door who have had prison sentences so she doesn't want to get stung with that.

***

Been looking for bungalows in the area, there are none. Mum's said she isn't moving unless it's to a bungalow and then she just point blank ignores me for a day or two if I bring up moving again. :dry: :dry: :dry:
Have you added Mum's name to any council or housing association list.
Due to the noise nuisance she is suffering - this should give her more points.
I wouldn't put up with it. When you next go out leave Metallica playing at full volume, for several hours until your neighbours get the message.
sunnydisposition,

I did a council application for Mum about a year ago. She wanted to be honest and say she was a home owner so she has got the lowest banding possible which means it's not going to happen. The only way to overcome this would be by getting a medical banding.

The OT from the OA clinic came and said they could fit a stairlift which means no higher banding but the issue is not just going up and down steps. She can't manage doors now nor can she get from the front room to the kitchen which is 3 rooms away. Also, we live nowhere near a bus stop and we live right at the end of a long street with a dead end so when we do have GP / hospital appointments she has to walk to the end of the street for a taxi. Oh and with the stairlift, they would have to rip out the door from the front room to upstairs, how would we keep the front room heated if there is a large gap where the door was? We have to have the central heating on at all times and the gas heater but even then, the front room is cold and Mum's hands and feet are always cold due to poor circulation from diabetes. All the walls are insulated too but the house is old and never really stays that warm. Oh and don't get me started on my brothers physical health issues which they have not taken into consideration!!!

The medical team mentioned that we could write a letter to tell them why living here is not suitable for her, as in why this house is not livable for her but I can't think of anything else. Any suggestions?

charm,

I like your style but one of the siblings is always at home but I will definitely bear that in mind. I do bang some kitchen cupboards but no one else from our house will resort to their lowly nasty tactics so it's me vs 3 to 4 from the evil house next door. All our doors are on the other side of the house so it's no good slamming them.
I don't think the OT was very helpful. For example, it should be possible to fit some automatic door openers for her, or change the doors so that they are easier to opener, maybe with what I would call a little ball catch.

In my area they have a team called something like the "Stay at Home" team where they can do work on a privately owned home to make it more comfortable and energy efficient. My own cottage is over 100 years old, no wall insulation, but we do have good double glazing and an extra thick underlay and good carpet. The doors also fit snugly so no draughts come under the doors.

Could the way you use the house be changed, maybe with mum having a downstairs bed/sitting room?
bowlingbun wrote:
Sat Feb 15, 2020 8:28 pm
I don't think the OT was very helpful. For example, it should be possible to fit some automatic door openers for her, or change the doors so that they are easier to opener, maybe with what I would call a little ball catch.

In my area they have a team called something like the "Stay at Home" team where they can do work on a privately owned home to make it more comfortable and energy efficient. My own cottage is over 100 years old, no wall insulation, but we do have good double glazing and an extra thick underlay and good carpet. The doors also fit snugly so no draughts come under the doors.

Could the way you use the house be changed, maybe with mum having a downstairs bed/sitting room?
We have a similar team here but they can only spend up to £5K on one property, so they mentioned the stair lift to us but Mum said she would think about it. They didn't mention anything about doors to her though. The original referral was made by the arthritis nurse who sent the OT from the housing medical team to us.

We've had other work done where they put insulation into the cavities in the walls or whatever they are called.

About a year ago, I had really expensive carpets and underlay put in which cost about £1500 for just the front room but I thought why not. The nephews love the fluffy carpet when they come over and start "swimming" on it. Had some recliner sofas too but Mum is petrified of them. We've also had the ceiling lowered to decrease the room size but it still doesn't heat up that well.

I would love to move Mum's bed into the front room but the wall it would be against is where the ghastly neighbours have one of their doors and they slam all day and night, so she would not get any sleep.

How I wish a bungalow would turn up in the area we live in. I would work 24/7 to be able to afford to pay for it. I just want to get Mum out of this hell hole so she can have a good few years. I don't mean to sound morbid, we are all going to go one day, I just want her to have some relaxing times instead of constantly being on the edge. Mind you, she won't move from here so there is nothing more I can about it other than keep cajoling her. Even if she moved into a home, it would be nice and quiet wouldn't it? What to do when she is adamant she won't move!!!