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Melly1 wrote: ↑

Sat Apr 20, 2019 5:33 pm

Brian, you have nothing to feel guilty about.

Melly1

Thanks. I know that it was my previous landlord's fault, but I still said sorry to the poor little thing when I went to collect his body at the vets.

Brian_19011 wrote: ↑

Tue Jan 15, 2019 7:44 am

I'm a 60 year old man caring for my 89 year old mum. She has COPD, severe arthritis and suspected Lyme disease. I've been renting at the present address from a private landlord for 5 years now. He has decided he wants to sell, and we've been given two months notice to leave. Looking at the market in East London, there is very little choice and the rents are astronomical. I've looked at sheltered accommodation, but they are all one bedroom properties and I want to continue to look after her. We are both getting very worried about the situation.

Can the council help in such a short time? I've heard of waiting lists being years long. Would my mum get any priority? Is there any other help for people in my situation?

Any advice would be very appreciated.

Sorry to hear this but get hold of your tenancy agreement and take this with you to citizens advice.

Try to drop in and see someone at your local citizens advice. There website is http://www.eastendcab.org.uk/tower-hamlets/

Also may be of use looking up some info on their website too under housing
https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/housing/
https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/about ... ice-visit/

Contact AGE UK also https://www.ageuk.org.uk/

Is not easy not to panic about things but you do have rights that come in to play in situations like these.

Try and find your tenancy agreement and take this with you to citizens advice.

Always keep this safe as is your agreement with landlord. It will also tell you about what your obligations are as a tenant and what the landlords obligations are.

8wks is about right . I live in private rented accommodation and is all our landlord would give us if it came about.

Also contact your local council about your situation. Keep a folder with relevant paperwork in it to do with your situation so you have everything at hand. Try to keep a notebook of times and dates you hear from landlord/phone calls/visits

Donot withold rent otherwise you are breaking your tenancy agreement.

Keep a notes on citizens advice visit/council visit/age uk visit or call so you know where you are upto with different people. Not possible to hold it all in one's head gets overwhelming and information is forgotten/lost.

If you have home computer set up a document or spreadsheet and update it with who/where/when/etc;

The journey ahead is a tough one but there is help available is about accessing it. Good luck!

Brian's problem was unsatisfactory resolved back in April.

The thread will make almost a blueprint for anyone in a similar situation ... especially if receiving an infamous Section
21 notice !

Most of the information is also available in the main HOUSING thread :

https://www.carersuk.org/forum/news-and ... lout-30866

Slightly easier to find in this one ... given the ever increasing length of said main thread.

On Thursday evening my mum passed away, after suffering congestive heart failure and atrial fibrillation that started on the day we moved house. Her suffering was unbelievable. She also developed an overactive thyroid, pulmonary oedema and leg oedema. The combination of heart drugs she was taking made her eyes so bad she could no longer read and her ears so bad she couldn't listen to the radio. She suffered from severe insomnia and most nights didn't sleep for a single minute. She went almost insane with the night time boredom considering she couldn't read or watch TV. I shared most of her sleepless nights because I heard her get up, or saw the light go on through the crack in the door, and always went to see if she was OK. She went from having a bearable, and even sometimes happy life in the previous house, to a living hell in the new one. I shared some of that hell. Another kind of hell was her last 12 days in hospital, where the care was shockingly bad, and I often felt that I couldn't leave her as I didn't trust the nurses or doctors to look out for her or treat her with respect. One time I stayed with her for 30 hours continuously, mostly holding her hand and trying to communicate how much I loved and cared about her. The last few hours were truly awful and I felt like I was going mad with the helplessness and depression. My life now is completely empty. All the things I used to do were to cheer her up or try to improve her health or stress levels. Now I feel like I have nothing to live for. I now think Section 21 is a licence to destroy or end lives as well as tenancies. All I can say is f*** Section 21 and my landlord for what they have done to me and my dear mum, who didn't deserve the misery and suffering foisted on her because someone wanted to make some quick money.

On behalf of us on the forum , you have our condolences , Brian.

Stay in touch ?

Hi Brian - I'm just online at the moment and seen your thread. So sorry to see what you've been through. You have been amazingly strong and an incredible support for your mum.

Chris From The Gulag wrote: ↑

Sat Sep 14, 2019 7:19 pm

On behalf of us on the forum , you have our condolences , Brian.

Stay in touch ?

Thanks, I might come back, but I seem to have no enthusiasm for anything any more

Janey_S wrote: ↑

Sat Sep 14, 2019 7:53 pm

Hi Brian - I'm just online at the moment and seen your thread. So sorry to see what you've been through. You have been amazingly strong and an incredible support for your mum.

Thanks. I feel a bit numb, except from an actual pain I feel in my chest. I'm not sure how I can convince myself that life is worth living any more

Hi Brian
Sorry to hear your news. Busy time ahead for you. You obviously have been a most wonderful son. Look after yourself. The numbness will subside, and you will feel all sorts of emotions.
Please stay on the forum. We are here for you.

Pet66 wrote: ↑

Sat Sep 14, 2019 8:14 pm

Hi Brian
Sorry to hear your news. Busy time ahead for you. You obviously have a most wonderful son. Look after yourself. The numbness will subside, and you will feel all sorts of emotions.
Please stay on the forum. We are here for you.

Thanks