Re: I am being bullied at a care home
Posted: Thu Oct 31, 2019 3:03 pm
Have things improved for you or not?
Thanks for your kind reply DenisDenis_1610 wrote: ↑Sat Oct 26, 2019 9:16 amThanks, Undermyduvet, for your replies to my post and others'. We are learning a bit more about your situation.
It does not surprise me that your neighbour has mental problems. She is probably a very unhappy person at heart. This could be the reason why management is particularly attentive to her. This is probably more the reason why it is better for you not to try to battle with this person but secure a better position for yourself.
My previous recommendation is endorsed. Consult your doctor for guidance to finding new accommodation suited to your illness. Follow Bowlingbun's excellent advice about an advocate. You sound as though, despite your illness, you are strong in spirit and, with a little help from the right people, can steer yourself towards a better life. Best wishes and keep in touch.
I can understand my neighbours point of view to an extent..It is never easy living somewhere that isn't right for your needs but it is hard to think of her and not feel hostile at the moment.Other people here have their own problems.I suffer from anxiety and have done for some time.My neighbour thinks the whole unit revolves around her.bowlingbun wrote: ↑Fri Oct 25, 2019 11:08 amUnder the Care Act, anyone who is "having difficulty making their voice heard" is entitled to an advocate.
From what you have just written, it is very clear that the neighbour is upsetting others, as well as you, and this needs to be addressed. Maybe it is just not the right place for the neighbour. However, I do have sympathy for the neighbour as well, because being moved is never easy. Maybe a review of the neighbour's medication might be in order?
However, you clearly need someone on your side, and an advocate would be able to do that. I have an advocate as even I have difficulty with Social Services!
Contact Social Services and ask for a Care Act Advocate to be appointed asap Don't take no for an answer, and be sure to write down the name of the person you speak to, date, and what was agreed. Stress it is URGENT as you feel threatened and it's not safe..
The doctors don't understand my illness.I had to see a specialist when I was initially diagnosed.I am looking for a bungalow anyway as I need my own space.Denis_1610 wrote: ↑Sat Nov 02, 2019 2:40 pmThanks for bringing us up to date and saying a bit more about yourself.
It should not matter that you have not been with your present doctor for long. He should have access to your medical history and be able to advise you or any party with reason to be involved. I'm glad that you are moving forward towards an advocate.
You say that your accommodation expenses are being partially funded by the Council. I would expect that this would mean that the Council could have some say in how things progress, though I don't know, from the information we have, whether this would or would not act in your favour. You previously said that you were on notice to leave. Is this still the case, or has that notice been rescinded?
When you attend the safeguarding meeting, find out your options. Speak up and also ask questions. Bring a pen to take notes during the meeting too. Insist on your concerns being addressed in a timely manner. Who will be at the meeting apart from you and your mom?Undermyduvet wrote: ↑Sat Nov 02, 2019 5:40 pmThe doctors don't understand my illness.I had to see a specialist when I was initially diagnosed.I am looking for a bungalow anyway as I need my own space.Denis_1610 wrote: ↑Sat Nov 02, 2019 2:40 pmThanks for bringing us up to date and saying a bit more about yourself.
It should not matter that you have not been with your present doctor for long. He should have access to your medical history and be able to advise you or any party with reason to be involved. I'm glad that you are moving forward towards an advocate.
You say that your accommodation expenses are being partially funded by the Council. I would expect that this would mean that the Council could have some say in how things progress, though I don't know, from the information we have, whether this would or would not act in your favour. You previously said that you were on notice to leave. Is this still the case, or has that notice been rescinded?
Yeah,I mentioned the notice in my last post.It still stands but I am trying to find out my options as I need more time and I have a safeguarding meeting coming up..Apparently the home have a contract with the council if you are council funded.I think the home is a private home but if it is council funded I wouldn't think this would make a difference.
Thanks Thara.I am downloading the attachment.This could be really useful.thara_1910 wrote: ↑Sat Nov 02, 2019 6:32 pmWhen you attend the safeguarding meeting, find out your options. Speak up and also ask questions. Bring a pen to take notes during the meeting too. Insist on your concerns being addressed in a timely manner. Who will be at the meeting apart from you and your mom?Undermyduvet wrote: ↑Sat Nov 02, 2019 5:40 pmThe doctors don't understand my illness.I had to see a specialist when I was initially diagnosed.I am looking for a bungalow anyway as I need my own space.Denis_1610 wrote: ↑Sat Nov 02, 2019 2:40 pmThanks for bringing us up to date and saying a bit more about yourself.
It should not matter that you have not been with your present doctor for long. He should have access to your medical history and be able to advise you or any party with reason to be involved. I'm glad that you are moving forward towards an advocate.
You say that your accommodation expenses are being partially funded by the Council. I would expect that this would mean that the Council could have some say in how things progress, though I don't know, from the information we have, whether this would or would not act in your favour. You previously said that you were on notice to leave. Is this still the case, or has that notice been rescinded?
Yeah,I mentioned the notice in my last post.It still stands but I am trying to find out my options as I need more time and I have a safeguarding meeting coming up..Apparently the home have a contract with the council if you are council funded.I think the home is a private home but if it is council funded I wouldn't think this would make a difference.
This is a link with more information on how safeguarding meetings work http://www.ersab.org.uk/EasysiteWeb/get ... Attachment