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I am being bullied at a care home - Page 4 - Carers UK Forum

I am being bullied at a care home

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Undermyduvet wrote:
Sat Nov 09, 2019 10:14 pm
Another update from me..having to use touchscreen so excuse typos

Theyre trying to postpone safeguarding meeting which is making me angry.I mean life is hell at the home and am close to deadline of letter.How urgent does it need to be?I have zero support and still waiting on advocate.
The lawyers have told us different things about where we stand with council9(we spoke to 3)two have said they should have some say about the notice as council fund a lot of my fees and the one I spoke to says that isnt neccessarily the case.Argh
Stand your ground. When is the meeting supposed to occur? Do not let them off unscathed with anything. Inform them that you are thinking of contacting the media to tell your story. This is like a really bad movie seriously! Have you contacted citizens advice or not?
Still on touchscreen as bluetooth not working on tablet

The meeting was meant to be the end of nov but social worker said it might not happen then.When my mum asked her if meeting was going to address bullying my social worker didnt give a direct answer.I dont know if it is because she doesnt know or if something else is going on.Theres a lot of things that need to be discussed at the meeting and that is one of them.I cant believe that social services dont take my case seriously enough.

That might not be a bad idea about media if they dont up their game
We actually spoke to the local politician in person but he let us down too.He said he would help then didnt.That was deveastating as you can imagine.

Yes..I contacted citizens advice online a week or two back and they said that somebody at my local building would Email and give support and they havent.Might try them again tomorrow

My whole life seems to be like a bad movie..lol.Theyll probably ending up filming it for the Hallmark channel(sky channel that plays a lot of made for TV movies)
Undermyduvet wrote:
Mon Nov 11, 2019 5:14 pm
Still on touchscreen as bluetooth not working on tablet

The meeting was meant to be the end of nov but social worker said it might not happen then.When my mum asked her if meeting was going to address bullying my social worker didnt give a direct answer.I dont know if it is because she doesnt know or if something else is going on.Theres a lot of things that need to be discussed at the meeting and that is one of them.I cant believe that social services dont take my case seriously enough.

That might not be a bad idea about media if they dont up their game
We actually spoke to the local politician in person but he let us down too.He said he would help then didnt.That was deveastating as you can imagine.

Yes..I contacted citizens advice online a week or two back and they said that somebody at my local building would Email and give support and they havent.Might try them again tomorrow

My whole life seems to be like a bad movie..lol.Theyll probably ending up filming it for the Hallmark channel(sky channel that plays a lot of made for TV movies)
When will the meeting happen?
No news on meeting yet.What makes me angry is that the social worker didn't tell my mum the meeting might be postponed until she asked about the advocate.Surely the social worker should have contacted us and told us or at the very least brought it up?
Has anyone else had bad experiences with social workers?

My neighbour actually locked my mum and I out of the building the other week and she is always waving her stick around.It is insane that nbody has dealt with her
Undermyduvet wrote:
Sat Nov 16, 2019 3:21 am
No news on meeting yet.What makes me angry is that the social worker didn't tell my mum the meeting might be postponed until she asked about the advocate.Surely the social worker should have contacted us and told us or at the very least brought it up?
Has anyone else had bad experiences with social workers?

My neighbour actually locked my mum and I out of the building the other week and she is always waving her stick around.It is insane that nbody has dealt with her
Try to push for this meeting. If it involves harassment, that should not matter either. This is why I refuse to use social workers out of fear of having a bad experience but the one who I met the other day to talk about adaptive equipment seemed alright but time will tell. I met her at the hospital rather than at my flat. And wow! I went to a care home to see a friend this week and she was the only one who I could actually talk to. We ended up sitting in her bedroom talking rather than in a communal area. She was the only young person with a physical disability there, all the others were retired and had cognitive disabilities/dementia.
Undermyduvet wrote:
Sat Nov 16, 2019 3:21 am
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My neighbour actually locked my mum and I out of the building the other week and she is always waving her stick around.It is insane that nbody has dealt with her
What sort of a care home is this, that this could happen? Usually entry to and exit from a care home is checked by a code on a keypad. How could your neighbour interfere with the system to lock you out? How long did it take the staff to deal with it?

Certainly mention this incident at the meeting.
Denis_1610 wrote:
Sun Nov 17, 2019 6:17 pm
Undermyduvet wrote:
Sat Nov 16, 2019 3:21 am
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My neighbour actually locked my mum and I out of the building the other week and she is always waving her stick around.It is insane that nbody has dealt with her
What sort of a care home is this, that this could happen? Usually entry to and exit from a care home is checked by a code on a keypad. How could your neighbour interfere with the system to lock you out? How long did it take the staff to deal with it?

Certainly mention this incident at the meeting.
It was the firedoor of the dayroom which she slammed shut with her stick.I didn't even feel we could report it as the home never really want to know.
Am still hardly ringing my bell because of my neighbour.I ring in the daytime but not the evenings.
Undermyduvet wrote:
Sat Nov 23, 2019 5:27 pm
Denis_1610 wrote:
Sun Nov 17, 2019 6:17 pm
Undermyduvet wrote:
Sat Nov 16, 2019 3:21 am
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My neighbour actually locked my mum and I out of the building the other week and she is always waving her stick around.It is insane that nbody has dealt with her
What sort of a care home is this, that this could happen? . . .
It was the firedoor of the dayroom which she slammed shut with her stick. . .
Thanks, Undermyduvet for the update. I retract my implied criticism of the care home.

Do you have an advocate yet? Have you a date for the meeting, or a date when you will be obliged to leave?
The safeguarding meeting is tomorrow so will let you all know how it goes.I am not able to attend for personal reasons but I have an advocate
Good luck!