grateful for advice on dealing with sister to help my Mum

Share your ideas about the practical side of caring.
nhshater wrote:
Thu Dec 14, 2017 10:31 pm
There are currently 2 types of lasting power of attorney and possibly still some enduring powers of attorney which were around until lasting powers of attorney replaced them. The lasting power of attorney for financial affairs can be used even if the donor has mental capacity. The health and welfare ones can't. However if your mother has mental capacity she can choose to allow you access to her medical records etc. she only has to tell the doctor she agrees although in practice a signed letter may well be required. I"m sorry if Nicholas disagrees but I assume his mother either doesn't have capacity or has given her permission. Or that the doctors are running roughshod over the rules
I have a health and welfare power of attorney for my partner who has mental capacity but I have access to his medical information on the basis of a much earlier single sheet letter that basically just says to whom it may concern I give permission for xxxx to have access to all medical information about me.

Sending best wishes to Aotearoa. We had 3 great holidays there (before the hobbits moved in) and they are the most common good memories we now share.
HI there
and good morning from Wellington; so glad you enjoyed your time here; Thanks for that information; yes I have got written in to the medical notes that my Mum gives permission for me to talk on her behalf; i will also email and print something to that effect which my Mum can use again with her GP and specialist
I am so grateful for that help; it really is so so helpful
Thanks again and good night from New Zealand
Isn't it about lunchtime there? Merry sunny Christmas!
Re: mobile phone.

I guess the answer is either find out what her objection is. eg. Scared of new technology? Is there a younger relative that could teach her the basics? Cost? Get her an all inclusive tariff.

Or(/and?) bribe her with a smartphone and sell it on all the non-phone features - games, internet, tv, videos etc etc.

Good luck.
Thank you so much for your awesome help
Every good wish for now

Susan
nhshater wrote:
Fri Dec 15, 2017 1:06 am
Re: mobile phone.

I guess the answer is either find out what her objection is. eg. Scared of new technology? Is there a younger relative that could teach her the basics? Cost? Get her an all inclusive tariff.

Or(/and?) bribe her with a smartphone and sell it on all the non-phone features - games, internet, tv, videos etc etc.

Good luck.
Thanks so much this is great information
susan
Thank you so much for your awesome help
Every good wish for now

Susan
susan_170912 wrote:
Thu Dec 14, 2017 8:00 pm
Lars_1708 wrote:
Wed Dec 06, 2017 11:55 am
Hi Susan,

we got Power Of Attorney for my mum. If you got that perhaps you could do it remotely. My mum already had a direct debit from the DWP to get the pension paid into her account. But I think this has already been suggested in a recent post, so not sure if that helps any more, as I'm not sure how she could then access the money, which I suspect is your main issue.

Either way, I would consider the Power Of Attorney if of course you have the time to do this kind of thing.
Thank you so much Lars; that is so helpful

Susan
You're welcome Susan, sorry for the late reply! Good luck!