You have priority regarding court of Protection. The main reason others are given notice of the application is so someone else can take over if something happens to you. My daughter's are named on the certificate for that reason only. My solicitor made it clear that I take charge. Luckily my family are very supportive. I tell them what I am doing out of courtesy but I don't have to. I'm the one who has control. Can you find another solicitor who will give you half an hour's free consultation. As well as contacting the helpline. Do hope you find a solution. It's so stressful.