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jenny lucas Online
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Wed Feb 07, 2018 12:15 pm
That would be a shame! Studying is SO important on SO many levels. I hate to say this, but ....in a way....'caring' is a dreadful 'waste of our life'. I don't mean that the person we are caring for is a 'waste of our life' but that they NEED care is a 'waste'. ie, when we care for someone all we are doing is 'compensating' for what they cannot, or can no longer, do. ie, we are making good a 'deficit'.
ie, our whole life as a carer is about 'making up for' what someone else cannot do to live their own, independent lives. Caring moves NO ONE 'forward'...neither the carer nor the caree. (It only brings the caree closer to 'base zero' - ie, the starting point of our lives where we look to the future 'ready to go forward' - ie, we are independent and capable of making something of ourselves and the time we have on this earth.)
(In a way, all medical care - ie, doctors and nurses, etc, simply 'get people back to the starting block' - they are 'remediatory' not 'progressive' in their impact on the person they help).
So, for all carers, we are simply 'making good' what the caree can't do for themselves. We don't 'progress' them, or, more importantly in this context, ourselves.
Brutally, you have nothing to show for your time as a carer except that you stopped the caree slipping back further and further. Extremely 'worthwhile' for them....but not for you (apart from proving love, devotion etc - obviously key qualities, but not doing, as I say, anything 'progresive')(ie, towards a better future for humankind, if one wants to be global about it!)
So, if carers can do ANYTHING that IS 'progressive' then I think they should grab it with both hands, however difficult to achieve. It's desperately hard, obviously, simply to find the time to do so, when a carer (if at all...sigh), but studying is definitely one of them! Mainly becauseit can 'fit in between the cracks in caring duties', and so much can be done at home, from home.
I would strongly advocate going to have a word with your course administrator, and see exactly what is entailed in terms of 'counting against you' re CA etc. It could be, for example, that they can tailor the course so that you are only taking modules that keep you 'under' the threshold, etc etc.
Just a point of information request, but does that (ridiculous and INSANELY 'cruel'!) 21 hours threshold (I mean, as if caring weren't bad enough, without stopping carers trying to create some 'me time' for themselves in all their dedication and, of course, in practical terms, getting qualifications that can keep them in employment when/as their caring role stops!), include 'home study'.? Will it include time taken to complete assignments, do your own at home research, library time, etc etc, or is just the 'teaching time'/'contact time' with teaching staff?
Even if this particular course just cannot be shoehorned under the 21 hour threshold, please don't give up on studying altogether. At the very least it 'moves your mind forward' so is progressive in that sense, and of course hopefully will help you raise your educational standards and lead to qualifications that, as I say, will give you a future OF YOUR OWN when and as your caring role ceases.
I do wish you all the very, very best with it -