Hi Everyone, this is my first time on here, I care for my daughter 29 who has downs syndrome shes always had very challenging behavior but now she has been diagnosed with Alzhiemers. as you can imagine its been difficult to come to terms with but as a family we will cope. What i am finding difficult is the lack of support there is out there ive found this the most upsetting,She has become very violent and all i want is someone to show me how to restrain her without hurting her, thats all. This has gone on since June last year I gave up my job as day service kept ringing me at work saying they couldn`t cope with her, she now has no day service as they felt it wasn`t right for her, I ve rang duty social workers crying down the phone asking for help, they said they will pass it on to mental health, that was end of November still no one has contacted me. My daughter is on a mood enhancer and i feel that this is all anyone will ever do, some days its so hardwhen shes screamed for hours, but every day is a new start we love her very much, just wish there was someone to advise. thanks for listening xx

I cant advise really but I do know that there are 'approved' ways of restraining people, as a last resort. Not too sure how you go about finding out etc but surprised you have not been helped more. Am a bit amazed that Day Servises are struggling but somehow you are expected to cope. As you say you love your daughter very much, and I hear that loud and clear, but you do need some better support. I hope someone else will have some clearer ideas for you.
All good wishes,
Robert