Hello, I'm Anthony, aged 49. How have I ended here? Well, I've been the sole carer for my wife for a few years now.
She's been suffering from ME/CFS for a long time.
I think I should rephrase that. We've BOTH been suffering with ME/CFS for years.
Finally, it's really been getting to me.
I heard the phrase, 'carer burnout.' That rings a bell I thought, so I Googled it. And yes... I recognised 7/10 symptoms in me. I wasn't sure how I feel about that, but one level it did make me feel vindicated.
ME/CFS renders my wife more or less catatonic for much of the time.
Bedridden, I do virtually everything for her. I now dread her waking up. ALL my home life consists of is a perpetual string of, 'Fetch me, bring me, carry me. ' I do EVERYTHING for her.
And yes, I'm sick of it.
I crashed our car last week. I almost think that I did it deliberately. I've been driving in an angry, impatient state for ages. I'm now, having educated myself, putting it down to carer burnout.
The only thing keeping me from divorcing her is guilt, knowing she cannot take care of herself.
I'm sorry to go on. I've got nowhere else.
She's been suffering from ME/CFS for a long time.
I think I should rephrase that. We've BOTH been suffering with ME/CFS for years.
Finally, it's really been getting to me.
I heard the phrase, 'carer burnout.' That rings a bell I thought, so I Googled it. And yes... I recognised 7/10 symptoms in me. I wasn't sure how I feel about that, but one level it did make me feel vindicated.
ME/CFS renders my wife more or less catatonic for much of the time.
Bedridden, I do virtually everything for her. I now dread her waking up. ALL my home life consists of is a perpetual string of, 'Fetch me, bring me, carry me. ' I do EVERYTHING for her.
And yes, I'm sick of it.
I crashed our car last week. I almost think that I did it deliberately. I've been driving in an angry, impatient state for ages. I'm now, having educated myself, putting it down to carer burnout.
The only thing keeping me from divorcing her is guilt, knowing she cannot take care of herself.
I'm sorry to go on. I've got nowhere else.