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Struggling with my mums carers

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So my my has 2 Carers 4 times a day and I live with my mum and the problem I'm having is lack of respect. They leave things a mess after they have finished caring for my mum, they send Carers who do not understand basic English which is difficult for my mum. They also send new staff to shadow bit they do not ask my mums permission they just send them here which my mum hates being watched by strangers, when she complains all they say is well how are the new staff going to learn if you don't let them watch!. What I find difficult is they come in and do not greet me just walk straight past me and recently came in arguing with me about the fact I complained as I didn't want them putting the aprons they have been using to care for my mum into my kitchen bin unwrapped. They also leave used gloves laying around and faeces on the floor in my mums room which I have to tidy up. They have also left the front door wide open when my mum was upstairs bearing in mind she is confined to a wheelchair and can't move unaided. They have also left our key lock wide open on several occasions and left the tap running upstairs which oiled our kitchen and electrics. The thing that annoyed me is to come into my house shouting and arguing with me is totally disrespectful. My mums gets frustrated with them at times but is overall happy with them it's just me that seems to have the issue. Even the owner came in the house and left and both times totally ignored me and that's there leader so to speak! I've had an issue with medication where the carers gave my mum less of a certain medication over a period of time and I got the evidence on CCTV but the two carers involved denied they reduced my mums medication 💊 and because the MARS chart was signed showing no changes there was no evidence to prove they did it but this particular medication was to treat nerve pain in my mums mouth and gradually the pain got worse. When the care manager came she started my mum back on normal dose and her pain improved. So my suspicion is they lied but no concrete evidence and this particular carer the manager thinks the sun shines out of her ..
Hi Carly

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Talk to CQC about what is going on, what they would expect an agency to do with aprons, gloves, etc.etc.

Who is funding this care?
As mum has very high care needs, is she receiving NHS Continuing Healthcare Funding?
If so, talk to the NHS staff who engaged the agency, otherwise Social Services.
I've spoken to CQC and also had to report them to the ombudsman due to them making a medication error and the manager trying to cover it up
Carl_2109 wrote:
Sun Sep 26, 2021 9:04 pm
So my my has 2 Carers 4 times a day and I live with my mum and the problem I'm having is lack of respect. They leave things a mess after they have finished caring for my mum, they send Carers who do not understand basic English which is difficult for my mum. They also send new staff to shadow bit they do not ask my mums permission they just send them here which my mum hates being watched by strangers, when she complains all they say is well how are the new staff going to learn if you don't let them watch!. What I find difficult is they come in and do not greet me just walk straight past me and recently came in arguing with me about the fact I complained as I didn't want them putting the aprons they have been using to care for my mum into my kitchen bin unwrapped. They also leave used gloves laying around and faeces on the floor in my mums room which I have to tidy up. They have also left the front door wide open when my mum was upstairs bearing in mind she is confined to a wheelchair and can't move unaided. They have also left our key lock wide open on several occasions and left the tap running upstairs which oiled our kitchen and electrics. The thing that annoyed me is to come into my house shouting and arguing with me is totally disrespectful. My mums gets frustrated with them at times but is overall happy with them it's just me that seems to have the issue. Even the owner came in the house and left and both times totally ignored me and that's there leader so to speak! I've had an issue with medication where the carers gave my mum less of a certain medication over a period of time and I got the evidence on CCTV but the two carers involved denied they reduced my mums medication 💊 and because the MARS chart was signed showing no changes there was no evidence to prove they did it but this particular medication was to treat nerve pain in my mums mouth and gradually the pain got worse. When the care manager came she started my mum back on normal dose and her pain improved. So my suspicion is they lied but no concrete evidence and this particular carer the manager thinks the sun shines out of her ..
Have you considered changing the agency? Private agencies are often more discerning Re staff and not necessarily more expensive. It worked for me
Mum doesn't want to change the agency she is very happy with them, but of course doesn't see what I see
Hello, Carl. You do well to refer this matter to CQC. However I doubt whether CQC has a silver bullet that it can fire from the distance and make everything come right overnight. Things will take time.

Your Mum seems happy with the carers but clearly you are not, and for very definite reasons from what I have read.

I suggest you consider changing the carers. I see no reason why your Mum should object to a change and she will probably get on just as well with a new team. Worry less about what Mum thinks; she is not in a position to see the full picture. Instead, deal with the problem you face now.