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Re: Schizophrenic father, stroke paralysed mother and a job

Posted: Mon Nov 25, 2013 10:15 pm
by Excession
I don't have PoA over either of them. Mum, while easily confused and I'm fairly sure suffering from memory problems, still has functional mental faculties and is capable of making her own decisions. She will happily defer things like this to my judgement however so at present I'm not concerned about that. She's not signed anything (and can't really as she's left-handed and her left hand is the one she can't use).

PoA over my Dad might be something I'll pursue if he doesn't get his act together soon.

Re: Schizophrenic father, stroke paralysed mother and a job

Posted: Mon Nov 25, 2013 10:28 pm
by bowlingbun
It would be a very good idea foryou to talk to a solicitor about getting mum to grant you Power of Attorney, so that you can look after their affairs when they are both incapacitated. If she can tell the solicitor that she would like you to act for her, the solicitor could then make the necessary arrangements. Don't delay, it takes about three months to register a POA now. In the meantime, have a talk with their bank about setting up a "Third Party Mandate" so that you are in a position to pay for things on their behalf if necessary. Mum did this for me a long time ago, it made caring for her so much easier, as I could make payments using her credit card which were then paid off at the end of the month from her current account. The bank said regulations prevented me from having a direct debit account, which seems a bit odd.

Re: Schizophrenic father, stroke paralysed mother and a job

Posted: Tue Nov 26, 2013 12:47 pm
by crocus
Wow, things have certainly kicked off Image
At least things are slightly more resolved now - less acute, but more chronic! It must be hard work, although I am impressed at how you have got yourself into a routine. Please dont overdo it and try to make some time for yourself in with it all. I dont know much about the financial side, but I do know that you are not responsible for the payment. Im sure she should have a financial assessment before anyone decides who pays, and there are other things that affect it too, but its rather complex - Im sure others know more than me.
I hope work is still being understanding.
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