Hiya and I think I may have just found this place in time...
I Paula, 42 and been with my partner for nearly two years, I moved in to his home about a year ago knowing his dad also lived with him, All was well for. While then my dad in law had a major stroke and i became a carer over night, i knew i would in time but not two weeks into my move, i have an 8 year old son who is also now a carer, since moving in, ive had three miscarriages and an opp on my leg, i got very little help from my partner, im now pregnant again and ive i asked my partner to get his dad to understand we need our time to be a couple and do things for us, because the situation has become dia and things needed to change, as i need to feel like this is my home and i have a say. My partner and his dad have lived together for 20 years, and become very reliant on each other, i get that but since i moved in, I've become a carer and thats all. I cook, clean, carer, taxi driver and much more. I do have carers resorces helping support me but its new and still getting thing in order.... but this evening, all hell let lose, I'm pregnant and asked my partner to try and get his dad to understand, i said ive had enough and without your support i cant support ya dad as im an emotional mess. I didnt go well ao i started to pack my bags and then my dad in law started having an upsetting time, started to hit himself in the face, we called an ambulance and he is there now with his son, my partner.
I think what im asking for, tbh, i dont know what im asking for but im in floods of tears, pregnant, feel very alone in a house that doesn't feel like my home as the only place that has any hit of me, is the bedroom. My dad in law controls every aspect of everybody's life and if we do anything for our self, the dad in law always comes down with a problem, i take him everywhere with me, we go out for meals, i deny me been me to make him happy because if hes happy the house is happy, but i am slowly becoming a nobody with no purpose but to keep the peace. Im really tired
I Paula, 42 and been with my partner for nearly two years, I moved in to his home about a year ago knowing his dad also lived with him, All was well for. While then my dad in law had a major stroke and i became a carer over night, i knew i would in time but not two weeks into my move, i have an 8 year old son who is also now a carer, since moving in, ive had three miscarriages and an opp on my leg, i got very little help from my partner, im now pregnant again and ive i asked my partner to get his dad to understand we need our time to be a couple and do things for us, because the situation has become dia and things needed to change, as i need to feel like this is my home and i have a say. My partner and his dad have lived together for 20 years, and become very reliant on each other, i get that but since i moved in, I've become a carer and thats all. I cook, clean, carer, taxi driver and much more. I do have carers resorces helping support me but its new and still getting thing in order.... but this evening, all hell let lose, I'm pregnant and asked my partner to try and get his dad to understand, i said ive had enough and without your support i cant support ya dad as im an emotional mess. I didnt go well ao i started to pack my bags and then my dad in law started having an upsetting time, started to hit himself in the face, we called an ambulance and he is there now with his son, my partner.
I think what im asking for, tbh, i dont know what im asking for but im in floods of tears, pregnant, feel very alone in a house that doesn't feel like my home as the only place that has any hit of me, is the bedroom. My dad in law controls every aspect of everybody's life and if we do anything for our self, the dad in law always comes down with a problem, i take him everywhere with me, we go out for meals, i deny me been me to make him happy because if hes happy the house is happy, but i am slowly becoming a nobody with no purpose but to keep the peace. Im really tired
