Hello -it’s been quite a while since I posted on here. From my first post it was about caring for my husband who is severely disabled.
Since then things have taken a turn for the worse. He has been diagnosed with high grade Neuroendocrine Carcinoma - a rare & aggressive Cancer. He is receiving end of life palliative care in a care home. It quickly became impossible to look after him even with care coming into the home. His 2 children who live in Australia & the USA came over a few weeks ago to see him & during that time we as a family decided with professional support that he needed 24 hour care.
Having them both to stay for nearly 3 weeks has taken its toll on me - I’m emotionally exhausted. Once they had left I felt a weight had lifted off my shoulders.
My step daughter from Australia is coming over again & staying indefinitely. Prior to her saying she was coming over, I had a conversation with my step son about how I was feeling & would they mind if they stayed either with their cousin who is always wanting them for to stay or get an air b&b so they could have space of their own. Step son understands. Step daughter doesn’t and is very hurt that she can’t stay in her fathers house ( the house belongs to both of us & is our home). Tricky.
She is incredibly untidy & treats our home with total disregard as how we like to live - with respect.
I have tried to explain to her my position in this awful situation, but it will take time , if ever for her to understand that I need my space to grieve for my dying husband, & to gather strength for the weeks/ months ahead.
Am I being unreasonable?
I know I couldn’t have my own children staying long either!!
If anyone has been in this position &/or has some advice I would love to hear from you.
Thinking of you all
Christina
Since then things have taken a turn for the worse. He has been diagnosed with high grade Neuroendocrine Carcinoma - a rare & aggressive Cancer. He is receiving end of life palliative care in a care home. It quickly became impossible to look after him even with care coming into the home. His 2 children who live in Australia & the USA came over a few weeks ago to see him & during that time we as a family decided with professional support that he needed 24 hour care.
Having them both to stay for nearly 3 weeks has taken its toll on me - I’m emotionally exhausted. Once they had left I felt a weight had lifted off my shoulders.
My step daughter from Australia is coming over again & staying indefinitely. Prior to her saying she was coming over, I had a conversation with my step son about how I was feeling & would they mind if they stayed either with their cousin who is always wanting them for to stay or get an air b&b so they could have space of their own. Step son understands. Step daughter doesn’t and is very hurt that she can’t stay in her fathers house ( the house belongs to both of us & is our home). Tricky.
She is incredibly untidy & treats our home with total disregard as how we like to live - with respect.
I have tried to explain to her my position in this awful situation, but it will take time , if ever for her to understand that I need my space to grieve for my dying husband, & to gather strength for the weeks/ months ahead.
Am I being unreasonable?
I know I couldn’t have my own children staying long either!!
If anyone has been in this position &/or has some advice I would love to hear from you.
Thinking of you all
Christina