I don't currently have Carer responsibilities.
My older sister (48) suffered a series of Brain Haemorrhages over a number of years, the most recent 7 years ago left her physically fine but unable to make her own decisions and our Mum took Lasting Power of Attorney over her affairs (Financial & Health). Her husband left her shortly before this last illness (they are now divorced) and whilst she was in hospital it became apparent she had not been looking after her financial affairs for some time, was in debt and had to go through an insolvency process leaving her with very little in the way of assets. In addition, she is very (verbally) aggressive and has alcohol dependency issues. She has no friends or other family.
She is currently living in a rented home near to my Mum. A care package is in place with a carer visiting most days of the week - unfortunately, due to her aggression, the carers now understandably refuse to enter her property so this is typically a doorstep visit. This leaves Mum (who will be 77 in March) to do the remainder of the caring for my sister - cooking, washing, cleaning, making sure she is clean etc., household bills, shopping, fixing things (my sister consistently breaks everything).
On top of this Mum also has carer responsibilities for my Dad. I'm worried about the toll all of this is taking on my Mum's health and it's clearly unsustainable over the coming years as she too is likely to need care herself (she has certainly earned it!).
Mum has never wanted me to be involved with the caring, I live 120 miles away with my husband and two small daughters (and she is trying to protect me from an older sister who resents me - this has always been the case even prior to her illness).
Has anyone had experience of where to turn when somebody needs to take a step back from being a carer? I'm helping Mum work through i) how to arrange a transfer of the PoA/to whom (?); and ii) a suitable long-term care package where Mum does not have to be part of this care package.
Many thanks in advance for any ideas you can provide.
My older sister (48) suffered a series of Brain Haemorrhages over a number of years, the most recent 7 years ago left her physically fine but unable to make her own decisions and our Mum took Lasting Power of Attorney over her affairs (Financial & Health). Her husband left her shortly before this last illness (they are now divorced) and whilst she was in hospital it became apparent she had not been looking after her financial affairs for some time, was in debt and had to go through an insolvency process leaving her with very little in the way of assets. In addition, she is very (verbally) aggressive and has alcohol dependency issues. She has no friends or other family.
She is currently living in a rented home near to my Mum. A care package is in place with a carer visiting most days of the week - unfortunately, due to her aggression, the carers now understandably refuse to enter her property so this is typically a doorstep visit. This leaves Mum (who will be 77 in March) to do the remainder of the caring for my sister - cooking, washing, cleaning, making sure she is clean etc., household bills, shopping, fixing things (my sister consistently breaks everything).
On top of this Mum also has carer responsibilities for my Dad. I'm worried about the toll all of this is taking on my Mum's health and it's clearly unsustainable over the coming years as she too is likely to need care herself (she has certainly earned it!).
Mum has never wanted me to be involved with the caring, I live 120 miles away with my husband and two small daughters (and she is trying to protect me from an older sister who resents me - this has always been the case even prior to her illness).
Has anyone had experience of where to turn when somebody needs to take a step back from being a carer? I'm helping Mum work through i) how to arrange a transfer of the PoA/to whom (?); and ii) a suitable long-term care package where Mum does not have to be part of this care package.
Many thanks in advance for any ideas you can provide.