My mother is 89 and still living in her own home, I am an only child and my wife and I do the shopping, clothes washing and ironing. Mum has three carers each day to assist with her washing dressing and meals has someone to come in bi weekly to do her hair and look after the garden. ( different people I hasten to add!)
Whilst she is still in reasonably good health we have noticed that she is spending more time in bed and we are now getting calls from the carers to say she has refused care i.e she has not let them in Currently Mum has not agreed to give the carers a key but we obviously cannot allow this to continue as aside from it being unfair on the individual carer who has travelled to her and incurring unnecesary costs it means Mum is not eating drinking or being prompted with her medication.
We are finding her becoming more forgetful and confused.
My wife and I both work our children are grown up but both soon to be travelling at Uni abroad We also have two other elderly relations to support, although neither currently have the same needs as my mother.
We have asked the local authority for a further assessment of her needs ( although they are currently only paying for 2 visits per week out of the 21 ) and feel inclined to alo get her Doctor involved although they have never been particulaly helpful in the past in terms of coming out to see her.
Mum has agreed to me enacting her Power of Attorney
Any further thoughts as to what else can/should be done
Starting to get stressed
Whilst she is still in reasonably good health we have noticed that she is spending more time in bed and we are now getting calls from the carers to say she has refused care i.e she has not let them in Currently Mum has not agreed to give the carers a key but we obviously cannot allow this to continue as aside from it being unfair on the individual carer who has travelled to her and incurring unnecesary costs it means Mum is not eating drinking or being prompted with her medication.
We are finding her becoming more forgetful and confused.
My wife and I both work our children are grown up but both soon to be travelling at Uni abroad We also have two other elderly relations to support, although neither currently have the same needs as my mother.
We have asked the local authority for a further assessment of her needs ( although they are currently only paying for 2 visits per week out of the 21 ) and feel inclined to alo get her Doctor involved although they have never been particulaly helpful in the past in terms of coming out to see her.
Mum has agreed to me enacting her Power of Attorney
Any further thoughts as to what else can/should be done
Starting to get stressed