Hi
I moved back home just over a year ago as my 90 year old dad had been diagnosed with stage 4 prostate cancer. Previous to this I was working 200 miles away so it wasn't practical in an emergency and dad was on his own as mom had gone into residential care. She has lewi body dementia. Dad has since been diagnosed with dementia.
I work part-time.
I am lucky that dad has always been independent and can still dress himself and cook.
I clean the house, do the washing empty bins, take him shopping daily, arrange and take him to all his medical appointments.
I am only 44 and on my own I worry about how I will cope if he needs more help.
I am very reluctant to give up work as I need some financial security for my future.
My only break from home is walking my dog. I have only had 2 weekends away since I came home.
I also have to have my 5 to old neice at least one day on the weekend so have very little time to myself.
My sister accuses me of living off my dad but she wanted me to come home, I have offered to leave and she could move in but she will not do that.
Sometimes I just want some time to myself, dad even decides what we watch on TV all the time on the rare occasions I stand my ground and watch something he complains all the way through it.
I don't want to resent my dad as we were always very close, and his health deteriating scares me. I would love to spend a week at the coast next summer with my dog but Don't like planning to far ahead.
Teresa
I moved back home just over a year ago as my 90 year old dad had been diagnosed with stage 4 prostate cancer. Previous to this I was working 200 miles away so it wasn't practical in an emergency and dad was on his own as mom had gone into residential care. She has lewi body dementia. Dad has since been diagnosed with dementia.
I work part-time.
I am lucky that dad has always been independent and can still dress himself and cook.
I clean the house, do the washing empty bins, take him shopping daily, arrange and take him to all his medical appointments.
I am only 44 and on my own I worry about how I will cope if he needs more help.
I am very reluctant to give up work as I need some financial security for my future.
My only break from home is walking my dog. I have only had 2 weekends away since I came home.
I also have to have my 5 to old neice at least one day on the weekend so have very little time to myself.
My sister accuses me of living off my dad but she wanted me to come home, I have offered to leave and she could move in but she will not do that.
Sometimes I just want some time to myself, dad even decides what we watch on TV all the time on the rare occasions I stand my ground and watch something he complains all the way through it.
I don't want to resent my dad as we were always very close, and his health deteriating scares me. I would love to spend a week at the coast next summer with my dog but Don't like planning to far ahead.
Teresa