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Hello to all and a Merry Christmas and a Happy and Healthy New Year to you all.
I recently joined on here and not sure what to say, but here goes.
I care for my mother who is turning 83 in a few months. She is blind in one eye and can't walk very far.
I had until January been working full time however the job I was doing gave me Carpal Tunnel Syndrome and ended up having the operation on both hands. Whilst trying to recover (which hasn't been easy as I ended with having problems), I was also looking after my mother at home. After months of seeing doctors and specialists, I was still having problems but had to go for a medical assessment and the upshot of this was, that because I had been looking after my mother whilst recovering I was able to work and they cut off my benefit.
So now I am my mothers full time carer, I gave up my job and it has been 11 months without a break.
I am fast learning how to be tolerant, patient and a non person. The funny thing is that now that I am on a benefit, so called friends have dropped me like the proverbial and with no close family in this country am now on my own to cope with the daily dealings of being a carer.
Hope I haven't bored you all, but just wanted to get that one off my chest lol.
welcome to the forum Kiwigaz
no of course you have not bored us, lovely to have you on board.
i hope you enjoy posting on the forum, we are a lovely bunch and you will make lots of virtual friends i am sure. x
Welcome to the Forum Kiwigaz, I hope you enjoy the banter, fun and non judgemental support, you will find hear in abundance Image xx

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I can identify with the 'friend' situation very well indeed!
Hi Kiwigaz, welcome to the forum. I also care for my mum part time, and son part time. It's important to get regular time off from caring to stay sane, even if it's just a couple of hours a week. Has mum had a needs assessment from social services, and you a carer's assessment? Carers UK have their own helpline, and they will be pleased to do a benefits check for you and mum. I was £50 a week better off after talking to them, so I always urge everyone to think about ringing them. After all, you can't apply for something if you don't know it exists.
Hello, Kiwigaz,

Welcome to the Forum and Merry Christmas to you too. The good news is that now you have found us, you are most certainly not alone Image .

I too care for an elderly mum, also blind in one eye, also with mobility problems, and now it seems dementia - but that is another story.

As Bowlingbun says, do you get any support from Social Services? Through them, you can perhaps get careworkers coming in to give you a break, or access to day centres to give mum one ... Probably worth a try, especially as, like me, you don't have much support if you are ill.

Have a look round the Forum but be warned, it's addictive,
Anne
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Of course we're not bored! Image Image
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Hello, kiwigaz, you will find plenty of support here, and of course you haven't bored us.
I am fast learning how to be tolerant, patient and a non person. The funny thing is that now that I am on a benefit, so called friends have dropped me like the proverbial
I can identify with the above, for the next few weeks I am working full time, then will be on benefits and working sats in order to care for my hubby who has asbestosis, copd and arthritis, and i am now discovering who are my genuine friends and who are not Image Image
The only thing i disagree with is you are most certainly not a "non person"!!! you are still very much yourself Image Image
phoebe x