Shewolf
Thank you for your reassurance. It's still needed by me. I do step back if one of my DDs actually tell me before hand that they are going to see their Dad. They don't always say. Not obliged to. Younger D often txts to tell me and writes if you want a rest. I do take the chance.
We possibly are out of hubby's mind some days. I sort of hope that now. Oddly enough.Other days apparently he says to staff about us. Must have been a day yesterday 'where the thought was just stuck. Said to staff the boys will be here soon to take me home. Going 'home' is a common theme with a few of the residents. One possibility triggers another? Who knows. Wish we could get into their thoughts.
I'm going today. Change of plan . I wasn't, but I'm taking older and younger grandsons out tomorrow. Middle one has an important football meeting. It's good when I have a valid reason not to go. My own conscience! I've definitely stopped comparing myself to the male visitors who go every day. 2 of them for hours and hours. Learnt it's each to their own.
So, ambiguous grief hitting again. Just when we all think we are coping it emotions consume us again don't they. Whatever our situations. Thank goodness to be able to share xx
Thank you for your reassurance. It's still needed by me. I do step back if one of my DDs actually tell me before hand that they are going to see their Dad. They don't always say. Not obliged to. Younger D often txts to tell me and writes if you want a rest. I do take the chance.
We possibly are out of hubby's mind some days. I sort of hope that now. Oddly enough.Other days apparently he says to staff about us. Must have been a day yesterday 'where the thought was just stuck. Said to staff the boys will be here soon to take me home. Going 'home' is a common theme with a few of the residents. One possibility triggers another? Who knows. Wish we could get into their thoughts.
I'm going today. Change of plan . I wasn't, but I'm taking older and younger grandsons out tomorrow. Middle one has an important football meeting. It's good when I have a valid reason not to go. My own conscience! I've definitely stopped comparing myself to the male visitors who go every day. 2 of them for hours and hours. Learnt it's each to their own.
So, ambiguous grief hitting again. Just when we all think we are coping it emotions consume us again don't they. Whatever our situations. Thank goodness to be able to share xx