Hi Pet,
Just been catching up with this. I've read the early pages and the last few pages to get a feel of things. I'm probably picking up on something you've already processed and moved on from. The bit about staff thinking you are looking out for any incompetence. Whether you are, or you are not I don't know, but in my mind it's totally normal for relatives to be on the eye out for incompetence. If staff are concerned or anxious that a family member is getting curious about the level of care provided, they should address this anxiety of theirs with a bit of self-reflection or in supervision, rather than giving out some vibe it's somehow rude or offensive a relative might be curious or even suspicious.
Probably a mute point. It just annoyed me if staff's attitude or behaviour added to the already emotionally challenging visits you undertake.
Alex
Just been catching up with this. I've read the early pages and the last few pages to get a feel of things. I'm probably picking up on something you've already processed and moved on from. The bit about staff thinking you are looking out for any incompetence. Whether you are, or you are not I don't know, but in my mind it's totally normal for relatives to be on the eye out for incompetence. If staff are concerned or anxious that a family member is getting curious about the level of care provided, they should address this anxiety of theirs with a bit of self-reflection or in supervision, rather than giving out some vibe it's somehow rude or offensive a relative might be curious or even suspicious.
Probably a mute point. It just annoyed me if staff's attitude or behaviour added to the already emotionally challenging visits you undertake.
Alex