New member : Dementia, coping with repetition?

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HI MY NAME IS BRIAN I HAVE BEEN LOOKING AFTER MY MOM 4 THE PAST 9 MONTHS.
SHE IS 84 YEARS OF AGE. MOM ALSO HAS DEMENTIA. AS EACH WEEK GOES BY I AM FINDING IT HARDER AND HARDER. MOM KEEPS SAYING THE SAME THINGS OVER AND OVER AGAIN, SHE FORGETS WHAT SHE HAS JUST SAID. I FEEL LIKE I AM GOING NUTS, I KNOW ITS NOT HER FALT. MOM HAS FORGOTTON IN WOT ORDER TO GET READY IN THE MORNINGS. I DO EVERY THING THAT NEEDS DOING. I HAVE HEARD OF A DIRECT PAYMENT PLAN, I HAVE SOMEONE COMEING ROUND TO ASSESS OUR NEEDS. COULD SOMEONE TELL ME WHAT I AM TO DO BEFORE THAY COME ROUND. MANY THANKS BRIAN
Hi Brian and welcome to the forum. I've moved your post to here so other members will be able to see it easier.

Karen
Hi Brian

Direct payments can be great for some but for others they can lead to a lot of paperwork. So make sure you know exactly what you are getting into!

You say you are being assessed but Legally there are 2 assessments - one for your Mum which is called a Community Care Assessment and an assessment of your needs which is called a Carers Assessment. As long as you get what you need it at the end of it, it doesn;t really matter to you which it is, but legally from an advice point of view it matters. Also I'm not sure where you live nad the law is different in England, Scotland, Wales and NI!

There's lots of great info on our website. I'd suggest you read this
1. Direct payments quick guide
http://www.carersuk.org/help-and-advice ... uick-guide

2. What is a community care assessment
http://www.carersuk.org/help-and-advice ... assessment

3. What to expect from a carers assessment
Even if you're not having a carers assessment this will help you think through what YOU need from things.
http://www.carersuk.org/help-and-advice ... nt?start=1

All the best

matt
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