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Carers UK Forum • New here!
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New here!

Posted: Tue Jul 12, 2022 8:52 pm
by Berrycloth
Hi everyone! I'm Bug. I'm 23 and I use it/its pronouns. Currently caring for a very close friend of mine full time.
Just registered as his carer officially today, actually, though I've been caring for 2-3 years without knowing I needed to register!

Hoping you all have a wonderful day! :mrgreen:

Re: New here!

Posted: Tue Jul 12, 2022 10:01 pm
by sunnydisposition
Hello & welcome

What support do you receive if any and do you get any respite? Have you connected to any local carers groups.

Just registered as his carer officially today. What do you actually mean? Registered or not if you provide care for anyone you are a carer.

Re: New here!

Posted: Wed Jul 13, 2022 4:46 am
by thara_22071
Berrycloth wrote:
Tue Jul 12, 2022 8:52 pm
Hi everyone! I'm Bug. I'm 23 and I use it/its pronouns. Currently caring for a very close friend of mine full time.
Just registered as his carer officially today, actually, though I've been caring for 2-3 years without knowing I needed to register!

Hoping you all have a wonderful day! :mrgreen:
Hi and welcome to the forum. This is a really long winded post apologies in advance for that. Firstly do call the local council up today first thing in order to start the application process asap. Everyone on here is entitled to some type of external help. Make brief summary notes as well at all times.
The council will ask a social worker to come out to the house to do a care needs assessment with you. This is your only chance to fully discuss everything. Only after this is completed will you start receiving any formal assistance or help. Be very honest as far as possible.
Make the most of this opportunity to talk. Best wishes. They will send you a copy of the assessment report. Read it carefully at least twice and highlight any discrepancies etc on the actual final report in red. You can do this.
Pay very close and careful attention to any questions that are asked of you at the assessment etc. Also breathe deeply in and out. Do your research as well. They are primarily there to help and support you so do remember that during the meeting. If you require further information please do not hesitate to ask anyone on here. We know what it is like.

Re: New here!

Posted: Wed Jul 13, 2022 10:15 am
by Berrycloth
thara_22071 wrote:
Wed Jul 13, 2022 4:46 am
Berrycloth wrote:
Tue Jul 12, 2022 8:52 pm
Hi everyone! I'm Bug. I'm 23 and I use it/its pronouns. Currently caring for a very close friend of mine full time.
Just registered as his carer officially today, actually, though I've been caring for 2-3 years without knowing I needed to register!

Hoping you all have a wonderful day! :mrgreen:
Hi and welcome to the forum. This is a really long winded post apologies in advance for that. Firstly do call the local council up today first thing in order to start the application process asap. Everyone on here is entitled to some type of external help. Make brief summary notes as well at all times.
The council will ask a social worker to come out to the house to do a care needs assessment with you. This is your only chance to fully discuss everything. Only after this is completed will you start receiving any formal assistance or help. Be very honest as far as possible.
Make the most of this opportunity to talk. Best wishes. They will send you a copy of the assessment report. Read it carefully at least twice and highlight any discrepancies etc on the actual final report in red. You can do this.
Pay very close and careful attention to any questions that are asked of you at the assessment etc. Also breathe deeply in and out. Do your research as well. They are primarily there to help and support you so do remember that during the meeting. If you require further information please do not hesitate to ask anyone on here. We know what it is like.
Thank you so much! I'm going to be calling up the council to get a needs assessment ASAP. Right now we're fighting with PIP & getting him an assistance dog.

Re: New here!

Posted: Wed Jul 13, 2022 10:17 am
by Berrycloth
sunnydisposition wrote:
Tue Jul 12, 2022 10:01 pm
Hello & welcome

What support do you receive if any and do you get any respite? Have you connected to any local carers groups.

Just registered as his carer officially today. What do you actually mean? Registered or not if you provide care for anyone you are a carer.
I only just registered with the GP and everything. Looking into support and respite now, thankfully I'm not by myself in this so I can take breaks when needed. The local carers association does activity days which I'm going to look into going to, too.

Re: New here!

Posted: Wed Jul 13, 2022 10:31 am
by thara_22071
Berrycloth wrote:
Wed Jul 13, 2022 10:15 am
thara_22071 wrote:
Wed Jul 13, 2022 4:46 am
Berrycloth wrote:
Tue Jul 12, 2022 8:52 pm
Hi everyone! I'm Bug. I'm 23 and I use it/its pronouns. Currently caring for a very close friend of mine full time.
Just registered as his carer officially today, actually, though I've been caring for 2-3 years without knowing I needed to register!

Hoping you all have a wonderful day! :mrgreen:
Hi and welcome to the forum. This is a really long winded post apologies in advance for that. Firstly do call the local council up today first thing in order to start the application process asap. Everyone on here is entitled to some type of external help. Make brief summary notes as well at all times.
The council will ask a social worker to come out to the house to do a care needs assessment with you. This is your only chance to fully discuss everything. Only after this is completed will you start receiving any formal assistance or help. Be very honest as far as possible.
Make the most of this opportunity to talk. Best wishes. They will send you a copy of the assessment report. Read it carefully at least twice and highlight any discrepancies etc on the actual final report in red. You can do this.
Pay very close and careful attention to any questions that are asked of you at the assessment etc. Also breathe deeply in and out. Do your research as well. They are primarily there to help and support you so do remember that during the meeting. If you require further information please do not hesitate to ask anyone on here. We know what it is like.
Thank you so much! I'm going to be calling up the council to get a needs assessment ASAP. Right now we're fighting with PIP & getting him an assistance dog.
Good luck. When you say fighting with PIP, do elaborate on what you mean.

Re: New here!

Posted: Tue Jul 19, 2022 12:46 pm
by Breezey
Hey Bug
I trust you are informed of all the benefits and carers allowance etc you are entitled to and the payment of your NI stamp while you are caring for your friend.

The NI stamp only backpays for x amount of weeks, you need to check on your missing months/years of NI payments because this will affect your pension if you can't pay them.
Also the Carers Allowance is taxable if you take on any other work.

Thanks for the pronouns heads-up but please don't take offense if there is slippage on this, many here are carers at home, away from woke establishments and work places and have a lot on our plates with our care roles. In your profile you can choose a signature which shows up below your posts, you could put your pronoun preference in there if you wish.

I am intrigued at your preference for 'it'' because I have not come across that before and in my world to refer to a person as 'it' is an extreme insult akin to swearing and I will have to overcome that to be able to refer to someone as 'it'. This is making me feel old and generations apart, so I want to understand and adapt.

Re: New here!

Posted: Wed Aug 03, 2022 1:26 am
by LordJeromiah
Breezey wrote:
Tue Jul 19, 2022 12:46 pm
Hey Bug
I trust you are informed of all the benefits and carers allowance etc you are entitled to and the payment of your NI stamp while you are caring for your friend.

The NI stamp only backpays for x amount of weeks, you need to check on your missing months/years of NI payments because this will affect your pension if you can't pay them.
Also the Carers Allowance is taxable if you take on any other work.

Thanks for the pronouns heads-up but please don't take offense if there is slippage on this, many here are carers at home, away from woke establishments and work places and have a lot on our plates with our care roles. In your profile you can choose a signature which shows up below your posts, you could put your pronoun preference in there if you wish.

I am intrigued at your preference for 'it'' because I have not come across that before and in my world to refer to a person as 'it' is an extreme insult akin to swearing and I will have to overcome that to be able to refer to someone as 'it'. This is making me feel old and generations apart, so I want to understand and adapt.
You don't need to adapt to anything if you don't want to. Indeed "it" usually refers to an inanimate object or a creature, usually a less significant one so indeed it's an insult, but if bug wants it that it shall be!

Re: New here!

Posted: Wed Aug 03, 2022 6:54 am
by Breezey
I want to adapt Jeromiah. We humans are an evolving species, I do not want to be a dinosaur, I want to give due respect to however a person wants to identify.

Re: New here!

Posted: Wed Aug 03, 2022 9:25 am
by bowlingbun
I am 70. When I was growing up to call anyone "it" was a really serious insult.

Even "he" or "she" was frowned on. Mum would say who is "she"? The cat's mother?!
Calling someone by their own name is so much easier.