Hello - I’m Rebecca and I am carer to my father who I also live with. I moved in here about fifteen years ago. I had lived next door but I was finding it difficult to finance , being divorced, and only having one income. The living arrangements are that I have the upstairs, and he has the downstairs, and we share kitchen. I have never got on well with my parents, but until my mother died two years ago, when I also cared for her at home until her death, my parents were fairly self sufficient, and we lived reasonably harmoniously together. My father is 91 now and is very difficult, and issues that we have stemming from childhood make it impossible for me to either respect or like him.
I’m sure most of you love your fathers and don’t resent them the way I do mine. He’s very physically fit and I see him living at least another five years and possibly more. Meanwhile I’m now 69 and feel that my life is over, and I resent him for that.
I can’t move out, I spend time with my children , I try to have outside interests etc but honestly I hate every minute I have to spend in his company and I can’t wait to be on my own again.
I’m sorry if this post shocks you, I can only speak honestly, and I hope that someone will be able to empathise with it.
I would love to know if anybody else here is having the same experiences as me, and if nothing else at least we may be able to offer each other some support and encouragement.
Rebecca
I’m sure most of you love your fathers and don’t resent them the way I do mine. He’s very physically fit and I see him living at least another five years and possibly more. Meanwhile I’m now 69 and feel that my life is over, and I resent him for that.
I can’t move out, I spend time with my children , I try to have outside interests etc but honestly I hate every minute I have to spend in his company and I can’t wait to be on my own again.
I’m sorry if this post shocks you, I can only speak honestly, and I hope that someone will be able to empathise with it.
I would love to know if anybody else here is having the same experiences as me, and if nothing else at least we may be able to offer each other some support and encouragement.
Rebecca