My son, who is 47yo and unemployed has been diagnosed paranoid schizophrenic for he past 10 years. He has been Sectioned 7 times - the last time in Nov 2019 for refusing his meds and was kept in hospital for 3 days. He is again this week refusing his meds.
I was, until today, his unpaid carer but have now at long last seen the light and agree with the rest of the family that he is just using me for money (when he has spent his benefit monies) and food (he comes here every morning for breakfast and I cook a meal for him every day). He can be very verbally abusive at times when you tell him no and I have had a particularly bad time with him this week. I have today sent him a bank transfer which should last him for cigarettes (50 cigs per day!) Money for gas and electricity and to clear a small bank overdraft that was costing £8 per day. He gets his next payment of benefits on Tuesday. After this hes on his own!
From today, he and his MH team (who seem do very little for him) have been told that I am no longer his unpaid carer, he is not to come to our home for the foreseeable future (he lives 5 mins away), and he will no longer be given food or money and needs to stand on his own feet. He is not mentally incompetent, it is my opinion he had a mental breakdown 10 years ago and because he has had very little help etc from his MH team he has deteriorated and is lazy. I have had occasion in he past to call the Police for various reasons and although I dont like to do so may have to resort to this again if things get bad. Am I a bad Mother? I am 72 and semi disabled and my husband is 82 no one else lives with us and we have no outside help nor indeed any financial assistance. Our other 3 children are in relationships and have families although we are all - except for my 47 yo son - in regular contact.
I was, until today, his unpaid carer but have now at long last seen the light and agree with the rest of the family that he is just using me for money (when he has spent his benefit monies) and food (he comes here every morning for breakfast and I cook a meal for him every day). He can be very verbally abusive at times when you tell him no and I have had a particularly bad time with him this week. I have today sent him a bank transfer which should last him for cigarettes (50 cigs per day!) Money for gas and electricity and to clear a small bank overdraft that was costing £8 per day. He gets his next payment of benefits on Tuesday. After this hes on his own!
From today, he and his MH team (who seem do very little for him) have been told that I am no longer his unpaid carer, he is not to come to our home for the foreseeable future (he lives 5 mins away), and he will no longer be given food or money and needs to stand on his own feet. He is not mentally incompetent, it is my opinion he had a mental breakdown 10 years ago and because he has had very little help etc from his MH team he has deteriorated and is lazy. I have had occasion in he past to call the Police for various reasons and although I dont like to do so may have to resort to this again if things get bad. Am I a bad Mother? I am 72 and semi disabled and my husband is 82 no one else lives with us and we have no outside help nor indeed any financial assistance. Our other 3 children are in relationships and have families although we are all - except for my 47 yo son - in regular contact.