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Sat Nov 02, 2013 11:43 pm
Hi Jennifer, I would suggest that you plan this very carefully. Firstly, make sure you know as much as possible about mum's health and medical conditions, especially whether she is likely to need anything special, like a walk in shower. Is she likely to need a wheelchair? Have you got a downstairs bathroom? Can she have her own bedsit so you can each have your own space? I jokingly tell people that my eldest son moved back in and then put me in the garage to sleep. After converting it into a lovely bedroom with ensuite for me, after I had serious knee problems. He has the upstairs of my cottage, and we share the downstairs - I wish I'd insisted they had their own kitchenette sometimes though. I have my own Sky Plus box, radio, kettle, and toaster in my room, and a washer/dryer in my bathroom, so no fighting over who is using the washing machine. I can get to my room without going through the house. I would also suggest a few legal things, like a Power of Attorney for mum (I persuaded my mum to do one earlier this year, just in time for me to use it now, as my mum is in hospital). Make sure you come to some arrangement about who pays for what, and who does what. Also arrange some "me" time, otherwise you will have the status of a slave. Hope that gives some food for thought.