I went to killing worth last week and met Barbrabut there only three people there . I need help with my husband who is 88and very hard to control .he ha memory shouts and gets me in a corner and goes red in the face I am sure he will hit some day. He has dementia but no one belives me memory clinic or social but keep asking for help but they keep asking how much money we have to pay for a carra sorry have to go low battery's
Hello Jean and welcome to the forum,
I'm sorry you are finding everything so stressful at the moment and are so worried about your husband's behaviour. Sounds like you do need some help in order to get practical help in place.
Have you tried contacting Age Concern? They should send someone round to help you sort out what you need to do. Yes SS will ask how much money you have because depending on your answer they will either find some carers for you and ask you to pay, or pay for them for you. The magic number they are looking for is £23,500.00. Now if your hubby has that much money, not both of you, just his share, then he will have to pay for any care. However does he get Attendance Allowance? That would help a bit.
Is there a family member who would help you sort things out?
Have you been to your GP too and explained how things are?
Elaine