I've just joined CarersUK as like alot of people I find dealing with dementia as a carer is a minefield and always seems to be at least one step behind!
Mum has vascular dementia and has a wonderful live in carer which works very well except in the independence area. Mum has lived on her own for the last 30 years and is struggling with someone else doing things for her but she has AMD so not only can she not see properly but in certain situations her brain can't work out what she is looking at or supposed to be doing. She finds this hugely frustrating and upsetting.
Mum's main bugbear at the moment is that she wants to go out on her own, mutters alot about not being allowed out. She will take her shopping trolley so the 'falling over' issue is greatly reduced but she struggles with money and occasionally where she is which leaves her very vunerable to being taken advantage of (luckily this hasn't happened yet) or her being extremely upset at not being able to cope. Mum has been admitted to A&E 4 times in the last 3 months having fallen over because she won't use a stick or walker.
The question is: should I let her go out on her own and potentially become a cropper or just continue saying not without someone with her? She will go out with me quite willingly but not the carer although I can't be there whenever she wants to go out. Please help!
Mum has vascular dementia and has a wonderful live in carer which works very well except in the independence area. Mum has lived on her own for the last 30 years and is struggling with someone else doing things for her but she has AMD so not only can she not see properly but in certain situations her brain can't work out what she is looking at or supposed to be doing. She finds this hugely frustrating and upsetting.
Mum's main bugbear at the moment is that she wants to go out on her own, mutters alot about not being allowed out. She will take her shopping trolley so the 'falling over' issue is greatly reduced but she struggles with money and occasionally where she is which leaves her very vunerable to being taken advantage of (luckily this hasn't happened yet) or her being extremely upset at not being able to cope. Mum has been admitted to A&E 4 times in the last 3 months having fallen over because she won't use a stick or walker.
The question is: should I let her go out on her own and potentially become a cropper or just continue saying not without someone with her? She will go out with me quite willingly but not the carer although I can't be there whenever she wants to go out. Please help!