Hi everyone,
I am hoping for some advice. I have been caring for my mum for the past 6 years. She has now lived with me in my family home for 4 years. I was manipulated into her moving in with me through guilt trips from her and I gave in. The problem I have is that I just can't do it anymore. I have 4 children and I barely have time for them. My 2 eldest have problems, one is autistic and the other is going through alot as he is transgender. I also have a 5 year old and a regular moody 13 year old. I feel as though I am trapped, my life is on hold and I can't cope anymore. My financial situation is dire and i just want to be able to get a job and work again as i had a career before o took on the carer role.
My mum is 64 years old, I believe she has had an eating disorder for years and as a result of that she weighs just 44kg, vomits all day every day, her muscles have deteriorated and she basically gets put of bed to go to the toilet and that's it. She has constant bed sores because she won't move around even though she is more than capable of doing so and she has me doing every little thing for her. She is in denial about having an eating disorder and doesn't attend her hospital appointments because she is always miraculously too I'll to go when the day arrives. I just can not do this anymore. I need to find another means of care for her and I don't know where to start. Can anyone advise me on what to do.
I am hoping for some advice. I have been caring for my mum for the past 6 years. She has now lived with me in my family home for 4 years. I was manipulated into her moving in with me through guilt trips from her and I gave in. The problem I have is that I just can't do it anymore. I have 4 children and I barely have time for them. My 2 eldest have problems, one is autistic and the other is going through alot as he is transgender. I also have a 5 year old and a regular moody 13 year old. I feel as though I am trapped, my life is on hold and I can't cope anymore. My financial situation is dire and i just want to be able to get a job and work again as i had a career before o took on the carer role.
My mum is 64 years old, I believe she has had an eating disorder for years and as a result of that she weighs just 44kg, vomits all day every day, her muscles have deteriorated and she basically gets put of bed to go to the toilet and that's it. She has constant bed sores because she won't move around even though she is more than capable of doing so and she has me doing every little thing for her. She is in denial about having an eating disorder and doesn't attend her hospital appointments because she is always miraculously too I'll to go when the day arrives. I just can not do this anymore. I need to find another means of care for her and I don't know where to start. Can anyone advise me on what to do.