Hi I am Sandra....I used to be a carer for my parents for over 20 years in total .....caring so long took its toll on me and now I have back problems and just had an operation to reattach my retina a few weeks ago...Now my husband has ended up being my carer....2 weeks ago he became ill with flu and last sunday was taken into hospital ....he developed an abcess on his back too and they had to operate....its breaking my heart ....I have no way to get to visit him in hospital...we have no family or friends and I had to get argos to deliver him a wash bag and towels to the hospital because he has nothing with him only the clothes he had on when he went into hospital...I tried to do the same with some pyjamas and underwear for him but the courier is saying they have been delivered and they are now missing....so he has no pyjamas or anything and the nurses keep telling him he needs to have these things and I just cant get anything to him....I can only walk a few steps with a zimmer frame then I have to sit down again because the pain becomes too much....I don`t have access to a wheelchair and I have no money in the house so I cant even call a taxi and take a leap of faith and try get to him......he left his bank card at home and the little bit of money he had on him he had to buy a phone charger so he could keep in contact with me....does anyone know if there is any way to get his bank card to him then at least he may be able to buy a few things at the hospital shop....I am heart broken he is in hospital with nothing and no visitors and im stuck here feeling useless and worrying about him
Ring Social Services and ask for an IMMEDIATE needs assessment as your carer has been admitted to hospital. Stress that you need Emergency Carers. Every area has to have these to keep people out of hospital.
Social Services should have access to a voluntary driver scheme too, someone to take you to see your husband.
How are you managing about shopping etc.
I feel sure that there is an organisation in your area that could help you, the St. Johns Ambulance, a volunteer service, WRVS or similar.
Google where you live and volunteer bureau.
If you have ever been involved with the army, navy, or air force, they have welfare officers.
Is there a local Guide or Scout group? They might be happy to help you as part of a Community Service scheme.
I'm disgusted with the hospital's attitude.
Ring the hospital PALS (Patient Liason) department, explain the situation.
The hospital should be able to arrange for your husband to have what he needs, after all, if he was widowed, they'd have no alternative.
If you could say which county you live in, ( not your exact location) or which hospital is involved, others in your area might know of schemes in your area.