I care for my husband for 15 years he has two brothers that come when they like. I make them tea and sandwiches sometimes I make them a dinner My problem is Why would they not suggest taking my husband out for a walk or a coffee whatever They come and tell him everything thing they do and where they go. With each other I did ask once if they would take him out one day just too cheer him up The reply was. No way I couldn’t cope with him. Am I angry No But it baffles me why they come here Are we just a day out for them or somewhere too go
Hi Jennifer,
We call relatives like that "Helicopters". Both my own brothers seldom visited mum, and I mean maybe go a whole year without seeing her!!! The they would tell me what MORE I should be doing for her.
Stop being so nice to them. Make them a cuppa, but no sandwiches, certainly no dinner. You are doing more than enough already. Tell them that you are "too busy" to do anything. Suggest that next time they have something before they visit.