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Wed Jan 01, 2014 10:46 pm
Hello Frito, I have been looking after my dad now for 3 years since he had a stroke, he is only 66, he has heart problems as well. I have had real issues with frustration and anger over the last 6 months. He has real anxiety issues and stresses loads about what is happening outside with the parking and the neighbours pinching his wheelie bin? he thinks the neighbours are there just to wind him up...they aren't of course. but sometimes there is no reasoning with him and it really winds me up, as soon as I come home from work he starts, it might not even be the neighbours, it might be about telling me how to drive my car? He wanted me to drive my car down the backings the other month coz someone had parked right ouside his house...my car won't fit down the backings...we argued for a full week. when he gets something in his head he is on a loop till he moves onto the next thing... He thinks everyone is stupid and don't know what they are doing. drives me bloody bonkers....wrongly I had taken to drinking a bottle of wine every day...not eating properly, making myself ill...before xmas I went to the docs and went in with an A4 double sheet of paper with a long list of things what he comes out with and the way he thinks. When she read it she said I should put him in respite and leave him there. lol. She agreed that he is obsessive and is going to have him in and is going to talk to him about his anxieties and see if she needs to look at his meds. He went into respite once earlier in the year...when I came to pick him up, the carers asked me how do I cope with the constant mithering? They won't have him back. He has had a dementia test last year, he passed with flying colours...the scary thing he did better than me. lol. I have been off work for the holidays for nearly a fortnight, I have managed to get rested up, and have knocked my drinking on the head, I am a lot calmer now, and feel more positive. Our Gp's are marvelous. Now i know that something is being looked at I am happier. It makes me very sad when we argue. We both feel bad the day after. I have actually swore at him before now. which I am not proud about. I think we all get frustrated and angry. The doc told me I should have gone sooner. While I have been off with him I have changed tack. When he starts I have gone out and told him why I am going out. he hasn't liked it, but he is learning. he has tried to have me over a barrel. he tries to be controling and wants me with him all the time, except for when I go to work.