I hope it all goes well for you both Sandra.

I don't understand why you have to provide food because if the carer was working from home they'd provide their own meals at home and a pack up for lunch. That beggars belief to me.

For many decades I've said this is a great taboo that needs to be broken and part of life skills taught in schools, reminded in college and universities and the NI raising for provision for elderly care.
But they are young and invincible and have better things to do with their disposable cash, it will fall on deaf ears.