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Caring for 11 years. Can't cope anymore - Carers UK Forum

Caring for 11 years. Can't cope anymore

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my name zoe I am live at home carer been caring for my mum which she have tapy 2 Diabetes Also cripple and arthritis and rheumatoid arthritis and now a new sleep treatment now and I cant cope anymore it been 11 years now I am 46 years old and been looking my mum a long time I don't getting any free time to have my own life need to have a break and also my dad have Vascular dimension too I NEED HELP 😩
Hi Zoe, welcome to the forum.

It sounds like you have done so much for so long. It's time to get urgent help.
Ring Social Services and say you CANNOT care any more, that you need your parents to go into respite care, with a view to long term care, immediately.
They should then do a Needs Assessment for each parent, and a Carers Assessment for you.

There are some things to consider.
Who owns the house?
Are they both receiving Attendance Allowance (assuming they are pensioners)
Has anyone told you that if dad has dementia, he is EXEMPT from Council Tax since the day of diagnosis. This can be backdated. One person has received £8,000 as a refund!!
Do they have over £46,000 in the bank, between them?
Do you have Power of Attorney?
Thank you very much I sent a email to my council to see if there any help
Zoe, you need to ring them up and INSIST on urgent help.
In the current situation, they will use any excuse they can to delay providing care, so you are going to have to be very pushy.