Hi Vivien, welcome to the forum. Make sure you plan some regular "me" time. If mum needs a lot of help, she might be entitled to Attendance Allowance, some people don't reaaise this to start with. I supported my mum for years, but now she is in full time nursing care sfter a long series of problems. I also have a 34 year old son with learning difficulties. I live on the edge of the New Forest, main hobby dressmaking when I get a chance!
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