Hi Ray ... welcome to the canteen ... others will be along to extend their welcomes.
Help / advice ?
To save a tombstone fit for a giant , any specific areas ?
Finances / support / assessments / housing ( If your mother has to go into care as well ... ? ) / grants / benefits and allowances paid to your mother etc. etc.
As an opener , why not check out your current range of benefits against an online benefits calculator :
https://www.entitledto.co.uk/
The conclusions from that will focus you more on the number one priority ... MONIES ... which govern most of the caring essentials ... can you afford them ?