Hello Joan
There may be a clue in that it gets worse after tea, google 'sundowning'
Also it might be worth having a deeper discussion just checking which 'home' she is wanting to go to. My Mum was happily settled in a residential home for 2-3 years. Now dementia is setting in and she forgets that she doesnt live in her flat anymore. Sometimes she describes her house before the flat and sometimes her childhood home. In her mind they are getting blurred into one.
I was chatting to a neighbour just the other day whose husband had dementia for 19 (!) years and I asked her how she responded to him. She said never disasgree with them as that gets them agitated, and the best repsonse was just "oh" in various tones such as "oh really "oh dear" "oh how nice""oh how sad" or often just "oh"
It's sad and distressing but I do think the distressed and argumentative phase passes in time. I've no experience sedatives or medicinal help, sorry
Kr
MrsA
There may be a clue in that it gets worse after tea, google 'sundowning'
Also it might be worth having a deeper discussion just checking which 'home' she is wanting to go to. My Mum was happily settled in a residential home for 2-3 years. Now dementia is setting in and she forgets that she doesnt live in her flat anymore. Sometimes she describes her house before the flat and sometimes her childhood home. In her mind they are getting blurred into one.
I was chatting to a neighbour just the other day whose husband had dementia for 19 (!) years and I asked her how she responded to him. She said never disasgree with them as that gets them agitated, and the best repsonse was just "oh" in various tones such as "oh really "oh dear" "oh how nice""oh how sad" or often just "oh"
It's sad and distressing but I do think the distressed and argumentative phase passes in time. I've no experience sedatives or medicinal help, sorry
Kr
MrsA