Hello I am new ,could anyone please offer me some advice
My dad was in hospital in July til September this year,with pneumonia,sepsis,he had vascular dementia,have just found out after a dat scan in March this year,that he has Parkinson's and Lewy body dementia,he went under the net like lots of others.a package of care was set up while he was in hospital 4 times a day but when he got home I just said he needed the morning call as he would go to the toilet when he wanted to go not wait for the carers to come and take him,also the carers were trying to put him to bed after they had showered my disabled brother at 7.30 pm which was way too early for him.i have no care plan for my dad no personal budget or assessment .the social worker that came out to us is not at all helpful I asked that as we don't get calls 4 times a day could we maybe get someone to sit with my dad for a few hours twice a week so that I could get my mum out for a break,no was the answer.i really don't know what to do.i want to keep my dad at home for as long as poss but it just seems that you are left to get on with it.i go down to my dad at 7.30 am to take him to the toilet,give him breakfast and medication,then I pop home at 9am when carers are showering him,so that I can get a shower ,I then go back down about 10.30am and am there all day til 9-10 pm every day.i get no time to myself I can't leave my mum on her own with my dad as she can't cope as he is very unsteady on his feet and she's 78 and no spring chicken.nobody seems to want to know or help in any way.i know I can't keep this up for much longer can someone please tell me what I have to do to get more help with my dad,so that me and my mum can get a break thanks
My dad was in hospital in July til September this year,with pneumonia,sepsis,he had vascular dementia,have just found out after a dat scan in March this year,that he has Parkinson's and Lewy body dementia,he went under the net like lots of others.a package of care was set up while he was in hospital 4 times a day but when he got home I just said he needed the morning call as he would go to the toilet when he wanted to go not wait for the carers to come and take him,also the carers were trying to put him to bed after they had showered my disabled brother at 7.30 pm which was way too early for him.i have no care plan for my dad no personal budget or assessment .the social worker that came out to us is not at all helpful I asked that as we don't get calls 4 times a day could we maybe get someone to sit with my dad for a few hours twice a week so that I could get my mum out for a break,no was the answer.i really don't know what to do.i want to keep my dad at home for as long as poss but it just seems that you are left to get on with it.i go down to my dad at 7.30 am to take him to the toilet,give him breakfast and medication,then I pop home at 9am when carers are showering him,so that I can get a shower ,I then go back down about 10.30am and am there all day til 9-10 pm every day.i get no time to myself I can't leave my mum on her own with my dad as she can't cope as he is very unsteady on his feet and she's 78 and no spring chicken.nobody seems to want to know or help in any way.i know I can't keep this up for much longer can someone please tell me what I have to do to get more help with my dad,so that me and my mum can get a break thanks