After several failed attempts to do this (coward!)...here I am.
I have lived with and care for my 93 year old Mum for the last 18 months. She is brilliant really but I am finding it really hard having no time of my own. I'm worried about the cost of care agencies and have only used their services 3 times for 3-4 hrs over the last year when I have had doctor or hospital appointments.
I used to be self employed and have tried doing a little bit of work at home but have had to give up as Mum hates it if I'm out of the room for more than 10 minutes, and is constantly calling out to me, having forgotten where I am in the house.
She is a lovely and a very sociable lady but when I suggest trying perhaps a day centre for one or two days she looks so hurt and I then feel so guilty. Like so many others in far more difficult and challenging situations than my own, I do feel guilty for feeling more than a little resentful at times. I get no help from my brother or sister who both live over 100miles away and my two kids don't live locally and lead very busy lives. To be honest I don't know where to start.
Its so true from what I have already read about friends who evaporate !! I have moved away from my home area to be with Mum and as a result I see no one now. The initial visits soon lessened. I feel so cut off. I would really welcome any advice.
I have lived with and care for my 93 year old Mum for the last 18 months. She is brilliant really but I am finding it really hard having no time of my own. I'm worried about the cost of care agencies and have only used their services 3 times for 3-4 hrs over the last year when I have had doctor or hospital appointments.
I used to be self employed and have tried doing a little bit of work at home but have had to give up as Mum hates it if I'm out of the room for more than 10 minutes, and is constantly calling out to me, having forgotten where I am in the house.
She is a lovely and a very sociable lady but when I suggest trying perhaps a day centre for one or two days she looks so hurt and I then feel so guilty. Like so many others in far more difficult and challenging situations than my own, I do feel guilty for feeling more than a little resentful at times. I get no help from my brother or sister who both live over 100miles away and my two kids don't live locally and lead very busy lives. To be honest I don't know where to start.
Its so true from what I have already read about friends who evaporate !! I have moved away from my home area to be with Mum and as a result I see no one now. The initial visits soon lessened. I feel so cut off. I would really welcome any advice.