Mon Jan 12, 2009 10:20 am
Hello
My name is Karin I am a carer for my husband, who was in a car accident 14yrs ago causing him to break his neck. I was pregnant at the time. he was very lucky he was still able to walk but 3 yrs later he was getting into the car and sneezed and put to disks out in his back and one imploded strangling his spinal cord. this resulted in the loss of control from the waist although with help he can be mobile some days.
we have catheters which i change we don't see the district nurse anymore as I was trained to change it. he now has regular anaphylatic reactions with no known cause. The hospital has been honest they say this is as good as it gets.
the hardest part I find is the change in personality he gets so depressed and angry but he does tend to take it out on me as its as if he can say what he likes and I will still be there.
even the Kids have got fed up with him the youngest is 14 and spends a lot of time at his elder brothers as he can play football with him and take him out.
Although I would never not have him around I do get fed up and worried how we will cope.
I went to the doctors before Christmas to find my sore shoulder was Arthritis not a pulled muscle I went for x rays to confirm this and they have said its poss in my wrists and ankles as well this worries me, as what happens if I got bad.
sorry for going on but this is the first time I have ever put this in writing or said anything except to my mum but she is recovering from Oral Cancer and I cant always talk about my problems with her as she needs my support as well
Karin
My name is Karin I am a carer for my husband, who was in a car accident 14yrs ago causing him to break his neck. I was pregnant at the time. he was very lucky he was still able to walk but 3 yrs later he was getting into the car and sneezed and put to disks out in his back and one imploded strangling his spinal cord. this resulted in the loss of control from the waist although with help he can be mobile some days.
we have catheters which i change we don't see the district nurse anymore as I was trained to change it. he now has regular anaphylatic reactions with no known cause. The hospital has been honest they say this is as good as it gets.
the hardest part I find is the change in personality he gets so depressed and angry but he does tend to take it out on me as its as if he can say what he likes and I will still be there.
even the Kids have got fed up with him the youngest is 14 and spends a lot of time at his elder brothers as he can play football with him and take him out.
Although I would never not have him around I do get fed up and worried how we will cope.
I went to the doctors before Christmas to find my sore shoulder was Arthritis not a pulled muscle I went for x rays to confirm this and they have said its poss in my wrists and ankles as well this worries me, as what happens if I got bad.
sorry for going on but this is the first time I have ever put this in writing or said anything except to my mum but she is recovering from Oral Cancer and I cant always talk about my problems with her as she needs my support as well
Karin
