Hello everyone,
I was caring for my mum and she died, now straight into caring for my dad. She needed care from me due to her illnesses but she was mentally all there so she was able to keep an eye on him and keep him relatively stable mentally. I claimed CA for her, but could just as well have claimed it for him.
I've not really grieved for my mum as I know that the buck stops with me in terms of my dad - I can't afford to think about the fact that my mum has died, in case it impacts on my ability to care for him, if that makes sense? He's taken my mum's death very hard. I've thrown myself into all the post-death admin regarding her and also the basic stuff like making sure he is eating enough and drinking enough water. Things are complicated by his mental health, but I do my best. He seems to be coping in some ways.
When my mum died I told the GP straight away and mentioned I am now caring for my dad, so that communication channel is open.
I'm aware my dad could be a lot worse than he is, so I'm thankful I'm not going through what so many carers are, but I'm concerned about what the future may bring. Looks like life suddenly got much more serious.
I was caring for my mum and she died, now straight into caring for my dad. She needed care from me due to her illnesses but she was mentally all there so she was able to keep an eye on him and keep him relatively stable mentally. I claimed CA for her, but could just as well have claimed it for him.
I've not really grieved for my mum as I know that the buck stops with me in terms of my dad - I can't afford to think about the fact that my mum has died, in case it impacts on my ability to care for him, if that makes sense? He's taken my mum's death very hard. I've thrown myself into all the post-death admin regarding her and also the basic stuff like making sure he is eating enough and drinking enough water. Things are complicated by his mental health, but I do my best. He seems to be coping in some ways.
When my mum died I told the GP straight away and mentioned I am now caring for my dad, so that communication channel is open.
I'm aware my dad could be a lot worse than he is, so I'm thankful I'm not going through what so many carers are, but I'm concerned about what the future may bring. Looks like life suddenly got much more serious.