My husband had an accident in May 2007 which left him brain damaged. He was discharged with no care package (the rehab consultant deemed he didn't need it) in August 2007.
I struggled to cope with his behaviour till November. He has uncontrollable rages and assaults me. Social Services then provided carers but the last two assaults (always at night when there is no-one else around) I had no option but to call the police. I thought he was going to kill me. He was taken into custody but relased both times without charge as he is not a criminal, but is ill. He doesn't know what he is doing when he has a rage and afterwards knows something has happened, ("We had a row"), but doesn't remember what.
He has perseveration which means he repeats the one thought constantly. Since everything else that mattered to him in his life has been taken away from him, the one remaining thing is me and he suffocates me by telling me how much he loves me a hundred times a day. It is exhausting.
After the last assault, in January, he moved to a flat a few miles away. I have to make his meals, do his laundry, see him every day. To make matters worse, his father died on 4th February and now I have to support his mother.
My daughter cannot cope with all this either and has been signed off work since December. She has a husband and twin children.
I struggled to cope with his behaviour till November. He has uncontrollable rages and assaults me. Social Services then provided carers but the last two assaults (always at night when there is no-one else around) I had no option but to call the police. I thought he was going to kill me. He was taken into custody but relased both times without charge as he is not a criminal, but is ill. He doesn't know what he is doing when he has a rage and afterwards knows something has happened, ("We had a row"), but doesn't remember what.
He has perseveration which means he repeats the one thought constantly. Since everything else that mattered to him in his life has been taken away from him, the one remaining thing is me and he suffocates me by telling me how much he loves me a hundred times a day. It is exhausting.
After the last assault, in January, he moved to a flat a few miles away. I have to make his meals, do his laundry, see him every day. To make matters worse, his father died on 4th February and now I have to support his mother.
My daughter cannot cope with all this either and has been signed off work since December. She has a husband and twin children.