Hi. I really don’t have it as bad as some but the guilt is driving me mad. It is not physically or financially but emotionally. I am an only child. Divorced. My son works away and my daughter lives 50 miles away with a non verbal child. I care for my 92 year old mum. Her mobility is curtailed. If I try to do anything that doesn’t include her I am landed with depression and sulks. I find I am not doing anything myself as I simply cannot take the moaning. I gave up work with stress and thought I would now be able to live my own life. I have to admit that I resent my current life. Everything I suggest to make life easier is rejected out of hand. She refuses a hearing aid, won’t contemplate visiting a day centre and absolutely no walking aids. Won’t use a stick but in reality needs a wheelchair. Frustrating to say the least. I need to switch off.
You will not be able to switch off. Unless you reduce what you do. Or hand everything over to others.
Are you connected to any carers groups in your area.
Have you ever spoken to AGE UK.
it's your mother's choice to what she wishes to except. However, it is your choice what you do. If you feel unable to continue as your own health is effected. Your mother will have to except outside help.