Hi, I have recently move my mum in with me as she has vascular dementia and her partner could no longer cope. I am an only child so every thing falls to me which I am only too pleased to do but find it very restricting especially as I have 2 children 9 and 12 to look after too.the guilt is shocking I am trying to make sure my kids don't loose out and also deal with all mum's needs. The constant accusations I find really draining especially like to night when I have been woken to be accused of stealing a ring off her finger _ this ring I believe she lost 5 years ago how do you respond to it?
Hi Nicola, welcome to the forum.
I had a similar issue when we moved into our new house. Dad was adamant that the bed in his room he had never seen before, it was a different bed and very uncomfortable. He doesn't even have dementia. I got very irritated at first, as I explained to him it couldnt be anyone else's bed, and he said I must be getting confused!! An old family friend, whose mother had dementia, advised me just to play along, saying meaningless platitudes like "okay, don't worry I will sort it out", and "I will find the bed, just manage with this one for a minute" and he would soon forget about it. He did.
I am sure you are in for a few struggles now that you have Mum with you, but this forum will really help! Lots of friendship and advice!
Melanie