As they say the first is the hardest to write. My husband has fronteral temporal dementia, he is 67 and we had the diagnosis 8 years ago I am 58. In the last few months there has been a dramatic change, he has OCD he will spend up to 4 hours at a time sorting out clothes moving them from one place to another and can never find anything, pairs up and wears odd socks, does not always change his clothes and puts dirty clothes away in odd places, I could go on and on now I have started but better not To lots of people he is perfectly normal and they could think slightly eccentric, even some family members say "He's alright" they do not live with him 24 hours a day 7 days a week. I have just booked 9 days away to see our son in USA graduate he cannot be left alone and yesterday agreed he would be happy to go into respite, today is a different story as yesterday did not exist other than it was christmas day its like treading on eggsells, he imagines people are here, has conversations with people who don't exist' and sometimes I think it is me that has the problem, gosh not bad for a first post and now I have started could go on and on but will save it for another time - maybe - Sue