Hi All
I am a full-time (live in) carer for my 84 year old Nan. I have been a carer for her for over a year now. I am 35 years old, single with no children. I became a carer by accident really. I was looking after my Nan part time while working and maintaing a six year relationship but everything can to a head a I suffered some sort of breakdown last year and could no longer cope with work I also ended my relationship which was hard I guess. Then my Nan had an operation for Colon cancer so I moved in to look after her when she came out and well have been here since
She has various health issues and has had a number of falls which have affected her mobility but generally she is doing okay in herself as long as I am with her. Most of the time I am happy but occassionally I feel a bit trapped mainly because of the grief she gives me if I say I am going out (even if its just two hours a week!!) Her sister died a couple of months ago, she had previously lived with my Nan for 15 years before going to a care home (she had dementia among other problems), well she died in February after a bad fall before Christmas and going down hill from there. My Nan's neighbour died this morning in similar circumstances, her husband is looking ill so I will do what I can to help him - after all he is 84 and I'm 35 so I can take on a bit more - I would hate my Nan to be alone. I guess my main worry is my Nan having a bad fall because I have seen the after effects it can have. She has had two falls in the last month which have not been serious but then I have been here to help so that kinda makes me want to stay in anyway. Also the boredom, I stuggle sometimes especially as the weather has been bad so we havent been out so just been long days with not a lot to talk about
I feel guilty because she never seems to get bored with me (I dont know why! honestly I drive myself mad some times!!)
I loved my Nan and she lived with me from a teenager and sort of brought me up so really Im just paying her back, I think its just hard seeing what its like to be old.
So just wondering really how other people feel about caring full-time and if anyones in a simialr situation.
I am a full-time (live in) carer for my 84 year old Nan. I have been a carer for her for over a year now. I am 35 years old, single with no children. I became a carer by accident really. I was looking after my Nan part time while working and maintaing a six year relationship but everything can to a head a I suffered some sort of breakdown last year and could no longer cope with work I also ended my relationship which was hard I guess. Then my Nan had an operation for Colon cancer so I moved in to look after her when she came out and well have been here since


I loved my Nan and she lived with me from a teenager and sort of brought me up so really Im just paying her back, I think its just hard seeing what its like to be old.
So just wondering really how other people feel about caring full-time and if anyones in a simialr situation.