Hello everyone, new to this forum, but tonight felt I needed to know there are probably others feeling same way I am. Really struggling tonight. In bed but very teary. A good cry will probably help. Care for mum aged 93. I’m an only child. Cared for dad until he passed away four years ago. Mum was doing ok until she got a leg ulcer last summer. It hasn’t healed, we have wonderful district nurses come in every day to change dressing. The pain from ulcer has been horrific at times and gp just kept prescribing co-codamol and tramadol, then morphine.(without ever having seen mum. Practice been taken over. Don’t do house visits) Still terrible pain. She’s been a poor soul and suffered so much. Last Sunday I had to call out of hours doctor as she wasn’t eating or drinking and so very tired. I thought she was on her way out. Doctor wanted bloods taken. Passed on details to gp Monday who didn’t pass details on to district nurse .only when I mentioned it to nurse on Thursday , were bloods taken by her on Friday morning. Got phone call from gp later that afternoon to say haemoglobin had dropped drastically and she had to go to hosp for transfusion right away. Very stressful for her getting to hosp. spent Saturday by her side while getting transfusion. could see an immediate improvement in her thank goodness. A consultant asked why her legs were covered in dressings . explained about the ulcer (the other leg started weeping a few weeks ago so it had to be dressed too), he wanted a swab taken and prescribed a different painkiller for her. Pregabalin. I really hoped we’d turned a corner. That she’d feel better after getting blood but today she’s been even worse. Couldn’t stay awake . She’s been short tempered, angry with me for trying to wake her up for something to eat, obsessing with the need for her legs to be covered with so many dressings. Frustrated feeling so unwell. I wish I knew if her behaviour is to be expected. I just don’t know.I’m feeling helpless and sorry for myself. I hate seeing mum like this. She’s such a great character and a lovely person normally but I find this hard to cope with. I gave up work a year ago to care full time. I couldn’t have coped otherwise. There’s only me and I used to love caring for her. Sorry to be such a moaner