Hi from a new girl! Don't know if I qualify as a true carer, as my elderly Mum receives care from a fantastic local company a couple of times a week, and is not chronically ill with any sort of degenerative disease.
Since she broke her hip in November, it's become clear to me that she does not cope well at home and, left to her own devices, would end up living in total squalor, which is what I found when she was taken into hospital.
I'm not a carer in the sense that the majority of folk posting here are, so am not complaining in the least, but would just like a bit of feedback on how I might approach many difficult subjects with Mum, who has always been very independently-minded (and not very good at accepting she might be doing something wrong), and who now cannot clearly recognise the decline in her capabilities.
Two of the most tricky subjects are
1. Driving- I can't see her ever being able to again, and
2. Her dog, who she can't care for much, apart from feeding the poor creature about three times more then she should, hence - massive animal.
I'm at a loss to know how to tackle these subjects kindly - and there are more- without devastating her. Any advice would be very welcome.
Since she broke her hip in November, it's become clear to me that she does not cope well at home and, left to her own devices, would end up living in total squalor, which is what I found when she was taken into hospital.
I'm not a carer in the sense that the majority of folk posting here are, so am not complaining in the least, but would just like a bit of feedback on how I might approach many difficult subjects with Mum, who has always been very independently-minded (and not very good at accepting she might be doing something wrong), and who now cannot clearly recognise the decline in her capabilities.
Two of the most tricky subjects are
1. Driving- I can't see her ever being able to again, and
2. Her dog, who she can't care for much, apart from feeding the poor creature about three times more then she should, hence - massive animal.
I'm at a loss to know how to tackle these subjects kindly - and there are more- without devastating her. Any advice would be very welcome.