Hello,
I’m new to this site, and I’m reaching out for advice.
I have been a carer for my husband for the last 7 years. He is an alcoholic and a heavy smoker. Last summer he had to go into hospital with aspiration pneumonia. Once he was medically fit to be discharged he went into a nursing home. Whilst there he slowly improved - as his condition was likened to ARD and the longer off the alcohol the more “with it” he became. Just after Christmas he was moved to a care home. He is now demanding to go home. He had been assessed as having capacity.
Verbally he is very good but I know for sure if he comes home he will deteriorate fast. He still is verbally abusive, wants his own way all the time, no personal hygiene, can’t cope with finances. I have just returned to work after being off for over a year. I am devastated at the thought of him coming home, I won’t cope.
My question is - can I refuse to let him come home, and let social services find him somewhere, like assisted living?
My home is a council flat.
Thanks for reading.
I’m new to this site, and I’m reaching out for advice.
I have been a carer for my husband for the last 7 years. He is an alcoholic and a heavy smoker. Last summer he had to go into hospital with aspiration pneumonia. Once he was medically fit to be discharged he went into a nursing home. Whilst there he slowly improved - as his condition was likened to ARD and the longer off the alcohol the more “with it” he became. Just after Christmas he was moved to a care home. He is now demanding to go home. He had been assessed as having capacity.
Verbally he is very good but I know for sure if he comes home he will deteriorate fast. He still is verbally abusive, wants his own way all the time, no personal hygiene, can’t cope with finances. I have just returned to work after being off for over a year. I am devastated at the thought of him coming home, I won’t cope.
My question is - can I refuse to let him come home, and let social services find him somewhere, like assisted living?
My home is a council flat.
Thanks for reading.